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jimbo25319
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Alright, I've offically moved to S/D section.

Update:
WW's A continues. Gone from EA to full blown PA.
While my son and I were out of town during the week of July 4th, on that day she and her OM spent two nights at a B and B, about and hour away from our town.
OM came to my home, was inside for about an hour, then the two of them left. They returned later the next evening, prior to my son and I coming home.

He and I beat my WW home, and when I was emptying laundry from the dryer, I found an item of intimate apparel in there, that she only wore for "special" occasions. We she finally got home, she made a bee line for the laundry room, but it was too late. I put that on top of all the other clothes stacked on the dryer. She knew, I knew.

She never told me about their trip, but through some snooping I found out.

Per my attorney, I played dumb, but she eventually figured out I knew.

I'm going to be filing under Adultery soon, but I giving her enough rope to see if she hangs herself further. Attorney advised some photos of them in public displays of affection would help tremendously.

She still refused to move out, but luckily she's been away flying 5 days out of the week. Thank sweet Jesus for this, because I don't have to see or deal with her.

My son is taking this bad. I just have to be the strong dad for him.

On a lighter note, I have a "running date", with a 23 year old on Friday. She envited me to go running with her after work. The WW will eventually find out about this I'm sure.
It sure would be nice to say, "your OM is 50, my GF is 23. How ya like me now".

Peace to all my brothers and sistas out there.


Posts: 480 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Maryland
5454real
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Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Careful brother,

On a lighter note, I have a "running date", with a 23 year old on Friday. She envited me to go running with her after work. The WW will eventually find out about this I'm sure.

What if it's used against you?


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2551 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Ashland13
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Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

^^This^^.

There was a story I heard a while back, where a BS was trying to catch a WS in action and (supposedly) all the person did was meet with the other BS somewhere out in public to work on it and BAM!

They were seen with each other and the WS found out and used it against them.

Yet, I understand what you are saying, Jimbo, about being asked out.

I have periods of great lonesomeness, but am under a microscope during D process and don't even dare swat flies without thinking someone is watching.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess


Posts: 2134 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
jimbo25319
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Member # 31891
Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Lawyer adviced being seen in public, IE going for a run or working out together at the gym, is not going to hurt my case. Now, if there were some public displays of affection, that could be a different story. I'm not ready for anything close to that.

I really thank you guys for the advice.


Posts: 480 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Maryland
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