User Topic: Divorce is final
Member # 37468
Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

The divorce is final. No spousal support. I waived about $80 a month in child support because at the moment it would be a hardship (this can change later). XWW was extremely cooperative.. give her some points for that. She accepted everything I suggested (that I considered fair). Only asked me to change one small thing while we were talking about it.

I have ~79% custody and final say in legal decisions according to our current parenting plan (but we're required to discuss major decisions). The plan will be renegotiated in 6 months.

No spousal support. We keep whatever property we have in our separate accounts and in our physical possession. We are responsible for our own student loans.

Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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Member # 33440
Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)


Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself

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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)


Who would have been paying spousal and child support to whom?

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Sounds like how things fell out for me too.

So how are you feeling?

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Glad to hear that everything went as well as they could!

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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Sounds like things went as well as one could expect. How are you doing?

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Congrats on having that done PIC. Hope you are doing ok today.

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

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Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)


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Posts: 1736 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
Member # 37468
Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

I would potentially have had to pay spousal support to her, since I make several times as much as she does. Calculated child support was her paying me $80 a month but I requested that it be reduced to $0 for the time being since she makes almost no money.

I'm doing OK I guess. I feel a little shocked. Maybe like things are more open now, I'm more independent. A little sad maybe. Mostly I just have a sense of lots of things changing, which can be a little bewildering.

Including the car thing. Researching a good used car for around $6k takes a lot of work.

Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Congrats. Do something nice for yourself-- you don't need to "celebrate," but you are starting a NB. I hope you can mark it by doing something more fun than used car research.

BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

BREATHE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's such a relief after the shit storm of D/S.

Now it will be time to make short and long term goals for your future.
Congrats and welcome to your NB.

[This message edited by gma56 at 4:27 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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