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hurthusband99
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

When my wife was in her 20's she had very little vaginal discharge on her underwear. After we have had 2 children and she is now 39. I have noticed sometimes quite a white stain on her underwear when doing laundry.

I ask as on Monday, she had quite a bit and on Monday it was a day she was short with me when I called and asked if she had time for lunch and she was too busy for me.


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Dawnie
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

No, that can occur at anytime depending on her time of the month. I wouldnt see that as a sign.


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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

It could easily be PMS related.


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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

I would say nope. Women can have discharge for any number of reasons. I would say I have it probably once a month at least.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

It could be the start of a yeast infection, bacterial infection, normal monthly discharge, etc...

[This message edited by SI Staff at 11:36 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)]


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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Actually this IS how I caught my STBXWW on two occasions. Ew.


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cdnmommy
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

I don''t know how to write this without it being TMI. :)

When I was younger, and supposedly more fertile, I used a pantiliner during the parts of my cycle when I had the most discharge, usually around ovulation. Now, I rarely need to bother with them, though I still have some.

Just a thought. I''m sorry she put you in a position where you have to question these things. :(


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TXwifemom
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

I'm a gynecologist. It's normal. Worse with age, worse with kids. Has nothing to do with affair.

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Mauimom1
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

There is a semen test kit available on line called checkmate. It costs around 50 dollars. It might be worth it for a piece of mind.


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confused615
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

It could be normal discharge..it could be semen.

You can send them in and have them analyzed.

Don't confront her again..just send them in.


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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

It can be normal.

I guess the real question is "what's going on that has you suspicious of her?"

Is that it..or are there other red flags?


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

No. It's something that is normal and related to nothing more than being female.

ETA: I should correct myself. It could be semen. But vaginal discharge is normal, and I would not jump to the conclusion that it is anything but.

I'm sorry you've been put in a position to have this even cross your mind.

[This message edited by solus sto at 1:14 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]


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cdnmommy
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

I guess the real question is "what''s going on that has you suspicious of her?"

His WW recently confessed an EA, and he is not sure she has been truthful, and had a PA earlier in their M.

I will admit when I replied before the semen thing didnt even occur to me. If it is cost effective, why not test?


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SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Ahh, I missed the first thread that HH started.

Perhaps time for a keylogger or VAR?


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numbandnauseous
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

I would reiterate what others have said.
(Ahem), from personal experience, (TMI alert) you can have discharge in your underwear after sex from the semen that leaks out of the vagina. You can also have normal vaginal discharge or abnormal (infectious) vaginal discharge. So, it can be a sign that nothing is up all the way to she is having sex with someone else.

(TMI alert again): again, from personal experience, semen has a different smell from normal vaginal discharge and infectious vaginal discharge has yet another smell.

Bacterial vaginosis, a vaginal infection, can be associated with intercourse.

Feel free to PM me with questions.

Sorry that you are going through this.

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hurthusband99
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Thanks, I know its a bit of a TMI topic. Sad I even have to post it.

Many days a month, but not every day, I see on my wife's underwear 1 - 2 one inch white crusty blobs on her underwear.

The reason I posted is other males might have the same issue. My WW had a confirmed EA and I have suspected more - but so far her stories keep matching up... but of course I still don't trust her.


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64fleet
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Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

man that's a tough one, HH. I noticed similar shit(I do laundry), and mine came up with BV and a UTI also, of course she admits nothing but a kiss even 5 yrs later...


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OnlyMe123
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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

I started to get that...white discharge. I think it was thrush. Might just get it (a yeast infection) but also might be from an other person. So you are still none the wiser

[This message edited by OnlyMe123 at 6:17 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Get a testing kit.

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imarriedmymother
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

Sorry my betrayed brother that this infidelity bullshit is so fucked up, you have to hope the white crusty shit on your w's underwear is vaginosis, thrush, or hopefully a yeast infection.................Arrrrrrrrrgggggghhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!

[This message edited by imarriedmymother at 1:43 PM, July 18th (Thursday)]


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

LIke others have said, it could be any number of things.
The fact that you are questioning it leads me to say trust your gut. If you suspect it's more than just the normal things then you can follow up with testing it, and of course going into a deeper stealth mode.
A Voice Activated Recorder in her car along with GPS on her phone will help you out with those things.

Sorry you have to be here, and consider those things.


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Blameitontherain
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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

Yes it could be normal depending on her time of the month. Or just a general yeast infection, bv, etc

TMI

I had a ton of discharge out of no where. It was really odd for me. Turns out it was the chlamedia (sp) WH gave to me from his whore. Early on he made comments about her being loud in bed, I said she was faking. He said no, she was always wet. I screamed at him it was because of her fucking std dumbass! Sorry for the thought jam :/

Have you been tested? Has she? Even if she claims only ea, this would be a nice way for her to show commitment and understanding towards you. Health is not something to screw around with. How much can you really trust someone who has chosen to go behind your back? You can't.

[This message edited by Blameitontherain at 1:47 PM, July 18th (Thursday)]


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hurthusband99
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, July 19th (Friday)

From the advice on this forum, I got tested. So far it appears negative as they will contact me if positive and it would be at the latest Monday.

Anyhow she has discharge quite regularly. But its not the same every day usually just a single little blob, but on some days its two or three blobs (about 1 inch in length)

I have not demanded she gets a STD test, perhaps I should.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, July 19th (Friday)

Well HH that depends on if you want to R. If you do, then yes you need to demand it. Frequently men will test negative for some fairly common STD's, because the Dr's don't test properly and becuase it can be harder to detect.
Again if you are having to question it, then perhaps it should be investigated a bit more.


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