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cuppacoffee
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Angry  Posted: 4:43 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

She texted him once after Sadat and he responded. I was pissed.
Today she texted him. Wtf? What part of nc don't you get? It was about work which she could have gotten the info from someone else.
His heart sank when he got it. He showed it to me and asked what to do. I told him crickets. He was like " I just want this to be gone. I never want to hear from her again. "

I was kind instead of shouting at him for being stupid enough to cheat with a co worker.

I want to punch her.
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That holds all that old dirt
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doesitgetbetter
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

I think you both responded perfectly! A united team, that is how you will both get through this. Great job not yelling at him for something out of his control!


DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

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1Faith
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Have him text her with you standing beside him saying " I cannot converse with you at all any longer. If it is work related please seek direction from -------. I am committed to making my marriage work and you and I can not have any further contact. Please respect my decision and my marriage"

If she doesn't he can go to HR or you can consider a RO.

Stand tall. United - fight for your marriage


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

Posts: 1105 | Registered: Apr 2013
TheBestMe
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

You two are doing the right thing; be a united front. By operating from different corners the AP was able to divide you.

Hank in there.


ME Doing Better
WH Trying As Best He Can
Married 23 years
Status: Working towards friendship
D Day #1 - 2007 My gut told me
D Day #2 - 2010 His D told me
D Day #3 - 1/11/2013 OW Confirmed
LTA 7 years

Both feet pointed forward; positive


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