As I've posted in the last few weeks, we are in the thick of A season right now. I am actually in another state with my kids this week and triggering a bit as I remember what he was doing this time last summer We talked last night and he is doing everything he can to be there for me, but there is only so much he can do over the phone.
Our actual antiversary falls on a weekend he agreed to help his sister move. We both agree he should do this. She is divorced and moving back in with his parents and could really use the help. In the past, he has been really absent in terms of healthy and helpful interactions with his family, so it is important for him to follow through with this. He is also bringing our young daughters with him so that I can get some much needed rest. However, what all of this means is that I will be alone on the anniversary of the weekend I discovered his affair and he will be back at his parents house with our kids which is exactly where we each were when he cheated on me. The parallels are just begging for a giant trigger fest, and I don't want that.
So I'm looking for some help. Are there things I can do? He can do? We can do? Anything to make the weekend less excruciating? The cell phone reception at his parents is awful so check-ins are possible and he will, but it isn't like I can just call anytime I need to and expect that he will pick up. His phone may or may not ring.
He has offered not to go, or for me to come; but I don't want either of those. I'm not all that comfortable at his parents to begin with and especially not while I am in an emotionally vulnerable state. His sister is a friend of our marriage and asks for nothing. I had to drag it out of her that she really needs this help. I want him to help her, and it will leave the move to her and their elderly parents if he bails.