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rn_6609
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

My son got married this weekend. There was a lot of anxiety over me seeing my XH with OW. She didn't come. She said she would be uncomfortable....hahaha...duh!

My dil and I are coming off the elevator...there is a man standing to get on. He said "hi"...we said "hi' and walked on. When we got to the parking lot my dil asked if I felt awkward...I said why?? She said that was XH...holy crap I didn't even recognize him!!! All gray and old looking :)

Next we go to pictures...I sought out ex and told him I didn't recognize him or I would have visited...we made comfortable small talk about the kids and grand daughter.

At the wedding...XH sat by himself...I sat with my SO. At the reception...XH stood in the back...Me, SO, family and friends have a great time dancing and playing around.

Next day I get an email from XH...says he had a "WOW" moment...said I have never, ever looked happier and he just knows he has never made me that happy. He was glad to see me.

That my friends is VINDICATION....yes I looked happy...yes I had on a smoking hot black dress...yes I am fun. Sad moment for him.

I almost feel sorry...I had my wow moment over 5 years ago when I caught him with her. Sucks to be him right now!


"If we knew each others secrets, what comforts we should find." John Churton Collins
Me: BS
Him: MLC to the extreme (howorker)
M 25 years high school sweets
2sons 25 and 27, one grand daughter.
Dday-Oct 2007
D 4/2009

Posts: 33 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: South Dakota
newnormal
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Member # 21925
Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

 
I didn't even recognize him!!! All gray and old looking :)

Smoking black dress

You go girlfriend!


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
traicionada
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Member # 10310
Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

That's the best revenge of all: happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good life


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

Posts: 3298 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Dallas, Texas
hurtbs
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Member # 10866
Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

Awesome! I love reading posts like this!!


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15321 | Registered: Jun 2006
Housefulloflove
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Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

Dang! That is a heck of a downhill slide if he is unrecognizable just 5 years later!

Yay on having your moment! How much better off he would have been if he wasn't such a sad POS who ruined all of his blessings!


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
hurtinky
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Member # 26152
Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

Sucks to be him!!


Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12



Posts: 1500 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Kentucky
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

Love it, Hot Mama!!!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6440 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

That rocks, rn! Love it.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 8:19 PM, July 18th (Thursday)]


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

That's freakin awesome! You go girl!!! I hope I have a moment like this one day!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
phmh
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Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

Great post -- and congrats to your son!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3349 | Registered: Dec 2011
inhishands55
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, July 18th (Thursday)

WoW glad you had that moment...I had mine several months back when I had to deliver a message to the ex...He looked so bad and could hardly stand up straight...

I thought if he lives to see his next birthday that would surprise me...Well, he had his birthday on the 4th and I think he is still around..

Congrats on your moment and too new Beginnings.....


Posts: 408 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: The Tarheel State, in the mts.
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, July 19th (Friday)

Bazingah!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17385 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Sad in AZ
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Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, July 19th (Friday)

Congratulations on your son's wedding and your moment!! It's such a good feeling


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20146 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Confused1829
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Member # 32729
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, July 19th (Friday)

This is the best thing I have read all day!

He was unrecognizable after just 5 years? hahaha.

It is amazing. The opposite of love is indifference - you are totally there and loving YOUR life completely!

Awesome, I'm glad you had a great time and you had a moment! Keep living it girl


Me: fBW 31
DDays: May 31 2011 & Aug 6 2011. Divorced November 14, 2011 (No Kids)

Posts: 282 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: New York City
luvbug0915
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Member # 22934
Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, July 19th (Friday)

Oh your story gives me such hope!
This is EXACTLY what I'm wishing for when I run into my XH and OW in October when I attend my step son's wedding with my SO.


"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle


Posts: 1038 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Metro Atlanta
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