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Sad in AZ
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Cool  Posted: 5:46 AM, July 19th (Friday)

The X called me yesterday; he'd heard about my move. As background information, he always wanted to get a 2nd house in the area I'm moving to; he wanted to be a 'snowbird', living in AZ in the winter and NY in the summer. I didn't want two homes

He offered come to Houston to help me move; I said it would be silly to fly in for that. He countered that he could drive--it's a 17-hour drive I thanked him but reiterated that it would not make sense, and in any event, I had hired movers to help me.

I asked if he was on vacation, and he said, no disability leave--he had blacked out at work the other day and had also had a kidney stone attack Really?? He was going to drive 17 hours to help me pack after all of that??

The conversation drifted inevitably to how awful his job was, how he can't retire for a few more years, yada, yada. At the end, I said, "In retrospect, this job with corrections was not a great idea." (It's also where he met the OW.) He got very quiet and said, "No; it fucked everything up."

No, XH; you fucked everything up, but thankfully, you freed me.


I promise to surround myself with amazing souls and love them fiercely.

Posts: 19154 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
newnormal
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Default  Posted: 7:02 AM, July 19th (Friday)

kidney stone attack 

Love the karma story, but it you really wanted him to hurt, a kidney stone is really painful.

I loved the part where he admitted that the job was a bad idea. Poor baby, bad choices catching up with him.


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, July 19th (Friday)

No, XH; you fucked everything up, but thankfully, you freed me.

^^^^This.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 40, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, separated 3 years, together 17
Alis volat propriis "She flies with her own wings"
separated 1/2011

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:06 AM, July 19th (Friday)

Wow. That is crazy.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Celebrating 60 years on Earth

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, July 19th (Friday)

No, XH; you fucked everything up, but thankfully, you freed me.

Skan's tagline has always moved me: Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

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She11ybeanz
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Happy  Posted: 8:33 AM, July 19th (Friday)

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

OMG...I love this!!! That is what my ex-husband and sperm donor were....big fat ugly anchors... sink baby sink!!! Momma ship has set sail!!! (with her little buoy in tow!!)

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 8:35 AM, July 19th (Friday)]


"Life's curve balls come out of nowhere.... just remember to duck and weave!"

ME - BW - 34
HIM - XWH - 38
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, July 19th (Friday)

He also said, "You sound good." to which I responded, "Yes; I am good."


I promise to surround myself with amazing souls and love them fiercely.

Posts: 19154 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, July 19th (Friday)

Man, I love, love, love messing with their minds being us newly Miss Independent's and all.

Woo Hoo!

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, July 19th (Friday)


This is great.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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torn2bits
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, July 19th (Friday)

Good for you Sad! As if you were really going to say "yes, I would love for you to come help me move.....so you can be my knight in shining armor and I can nurse you and your kidney problem!". He should wake up from that dream now!


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, July 19th (Friday)

t/j:

Momma ship has set sail!!! (with her little buoy in tow!!)

But you have a little goil !

end t/j

He also said, "You sound good." to which I responded, "Yes; I am good."

^^^^ THIS!!! Good for you SAZ!


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, July 19th (Friday)

He also said, "You sound good." to which I responded, "Yes; I am good."

You go, girl.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, July 19th (Friday)

Awesome.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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aLadypilot
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, July 19th (Friday)

Beautiful! I love these stories.


Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13

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cass
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, July 19th (Friday)

Wow, good for you....and it's so good to be.......well good


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, July 19th (Friday)


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

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burnt_toast
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, July 19th (Friday)

Great!


It is what it is.

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courageous
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, July 19th (Friday)

That's is so awesome!


No, XH; you fucked everything up, but thankfully, you freed me.

Free is a great feeling. Hope your move goes well.


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, July 19th (Friday)

so pleased he waited till you moved on before going fishing


Me = FBS
Him = gone


things that happen in my life do not define who I am. I get to choose to be the best I can be, for me. cause I'm worth it.


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stronger08
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Default  Posted: 6:33 AM, July 20th (Saturday)

You handled that perfectly.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, July 20th (Saturday)

Sad, Karma rolls on.

Funny how it's summer and you are moving to the area he wants to be in at the time he wants to be there. Yep... karma.

What date are you moving?

Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, July 20th (Saturday)

Hi Kajem! I'm leaving TX on either the 28th or 29th and moseying my way across to Atlanta to see DS & DIL, then up the coast to see a few friends. I'm supposed to move into my apartment on August 8th and I start my new job on August 12th. I don't have a set schedule yet because DS might have to go away on business when I'm supposed to be there, so I'm waiting to find out if he can get out of that trip.


I promise to surround myself with amazing souls and love them fiercely.

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Skan
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, July 21st (Sunday)

Way to put him in his non-place!

T/J Dang, I made a Karma thread! I feel faint!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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persevere
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, July 21st (Sunday)

You handled him perfectly lady. Between that and your sense of adventure in moving forward, I am truly just always in awe of you. Honestly. You just jump right in to every new and exciting opportunity and I LOVE that!! I am SO excited for you and cannot wait to hear more!

I wish you all the best in your latest new beginning!


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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