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stungbytravel
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, July 19th (Friday)


WH and I have been separated about a month. We have not spoken in about two weeks. I have not tried to contact him and have gotten nothing much from him.

Recently, my stepdaughter's summer school grades came in the mail. They are addressed to WH. She is living with him right now. She has been anxiously awaiting there arrival. Her and I still talk occasionally, so I texted her they were here. She wanted me to open them but I refused and sent WH a message telling him the grades were here and did he want me to open them or something else. I got back crickets. No response.

What the heck? I do not understand this. I feel bad for my stepdaughter because she doesn't know what she got in her class. She said the final was a large part of her grade and it could go either way.

Is it normal for the WS to just ignore the BS?


Not sure DD 10/6/2012
No doubt in my mind DD 04/2013
Sleeping in Separate Bedrooms 12/2012
Formal Separation 6/2013
Divorce Final 12/2013
Admitted Affair 4/2014

Posts: 251 | Registered: Oct 2012
Take2
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, July 19th (Friday)

Normal...WS... in the same sentence. Hmmm. Mine did for weeks at a time over the course of several years.

So this is addressed to WS? I'd coordinate with SD and bring it to her, so she can run out the car and grab it. She gets her grade - you stay incommunicado with WS. I'm sure she'd appreciate the effort.

[This message edited by Take2 at 8:10 AM, July 19th (Friday)]


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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stungbytravel
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Member # 37225
Default  Posted: 8:12 AM, July 19th (Friday)

Yes it is addressed to WH. My stepdaughter has lied about her grades in the past and I believe this is why he gets them via mail.


Not sure DD 10/6/2012
No doubt in my mind DD 04/2013
Sleeping in Separate Bedrooms 12/2012
Formal Separation 6/2013
Divorce Final 12/2013
Admitted Affair 4/2014

Posts: 251 | Registered: Oct 2012
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, July 19th (Friday)

He's trying to show you who's boss by not answering. Duh idiot. That would be fine if you were texting asking how was his day, but not about something like his D's marks.

Since he doesn't want to answer, AND because this envelope involves your SD, I would just text him back saying you are dropping the envelope off at xxx location (his mom's? Sisters? Best friend?0 because SD needs her marks.

If the envelope was something just for him, even if it were important and he ignored my text telling him it was here? I'd let it sit there for a week or two, then send it back to the sender.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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