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hexed
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Happy  Posted: 10:04 AM, July 19th (Friday)

Just a reminder to the newer folks in NB -- its the actions that matter not the words.

My SO, fondly known as TG, continues to remind me of that. We have both been travelling 5 dasy a week for work for a while now. My schedule is more flexible than his. I have often gone out of my way so we could see each other for 'date nights' at various places around the country. In relationships, I've always been the one to do things like that...giving a bit too much effort w/o reciprocation.

Well his travel schedule just changed a lot. He's flying in tonight so we can have a date night. He's going out of his way to make time for me. He tells me all the time how important I am to him but this is just one of many ways he shows me. It was a lovely surprise this morning to find out he's coming here tonight.

Just remember talking isn't acting. 3 years into our relationship, this matters just as much as it did on day 1.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8459 | Registered: Apr 2008
veelop5
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Member # 11089
Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, July 19th (Friday)

Hexed...you always give me hope!!! I am so so happy for you!!! Enjoy your time together...


ME-38
XH-40
3 beautiful boys (20,19 & 15)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
Divorce final 3/27/2013

Posts: 1096 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Pennsylvania
wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, July 19th (Friday)


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 5982 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
SoHappyNow
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Member # 8923
Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, July 19th (Friday)

Yay!!!!


In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus

***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
Remarried 2/14/14


Posts: 2295 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA
hexed
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Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, July 19th (Friday)

I'm feeling extra gushy b/c I found a note I put in his luggage two years ago that says "i love you and can't wait to see you" on the fridge yesterday when I was getting ready to leave. He knows what to do for sure.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8459 | Registered: Apr 2008
Amazonia
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Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, July 19th (Friday)

aww!

You guys have such a great relationship. I really appreciate you posting about the ups and downs and getting to see healthy in action, hexed.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13787 | Registered: Jul 2011
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, July 19th (Friday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17484 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Williesmom
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Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, July 19th (Friday)


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7761 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
MyVoice
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Member # 35695
Default  Posted: 2:04 AM, July 20th (Saturday)

Actions not words, actions not words , actions not words... right now I just need to remember to remember that!

I'm so happy for you what a gorgeous thing for him to still have that note and put it on the fridge


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 471 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
dindy
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Default  Posted: 5:45 AM, July 20th (Saturday)

I'm really happy for you hexed and your post gives me hope that one day I will meet someone special who can show actions and not just say useless words!

:)


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