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User Topic: H came clean to his 2 best friends!
shatteredheart7
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Member # 39734
Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, July 19th (Friday)

So we are camping at this vintage motorcycle thing this weekend with his 2 best, lifelong friends. We got here yesterday and everything was going great. Last night we were all sitting around drinking a few and he says to them that he wants to set the record straight. He then proceeds to tell them about how he had been unfaithful and why, he took all the blame (which he should) and told them how lucky he was that I was willing to forgive him and work on fixing us and how much he regrets what he did. His friends are brothers, one is 1 yr older than H and the other is the same age as H. The older brother just kind of took a shocked breath and said he had no idea then went on to say how much he and his wife liked me and that the first time they met me they said that I "fit in with all of them" and he looked at my H and said, "I hope you know just how lucky you are". The younger brother really didn't say anything to him, instead came over to me and hugged me and said that he loved me and if he would have known he would have cut his balls off. The younger brother has always told me that I am his favorite sister in law, my H has always been treated like part of their family, they are more than friends they are like brothers.

Anyway, we talked about it later and he said he had been wanting to come clean with them for a while but the alcohol had loosened him up enough to tell them. He just wanted to make sure I wasn't upset that he had told them. I told him I was glad he had but for some reason, maybe the tears streaming down my face, he didn't believe me.He held me while I cried, the whole time telling me how sorry he was for everything. Once I stopped crying, I was able to explain to him that I was crying because him making the decision on his own to confess to his 2 lifelong friends and their support of ME had really touched my heart,especially in light of the way his actual blood family treat me.

I just wanted to share because it seems as though everyday something great happens with us and I am so glad that we are working this out and saving our M!!!


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
Skan
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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, July 19th (Friday)

I would have cried with happiness and relief too. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4926 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
shatteredheart7
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Member # 39734
Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, July 19th (Friday)

Thank you! I still want to cry thinking about how much last night meant to me! I also forgot to mention that the older of his friends, his W had a ONS early in their marriage and they made it. They have been married for over 20 yrs. My DH has been stuck to me like glue all day! I keep telling him to go have fun, go ride with his friends.I brought 2 books to read and was planning on just hanging out at the campsite. But if I don't hop on a bike and take off with them he won't go. Good thing we brought 15 bikes with us, plenty to chose from. I did finally get him to go...I told him he was making me feel guilty, like I was ruining their guys weekend. But I'm sure he will be back in just a few mins. Lol. Never thought I would have to force him to leave me at a campsite so hr could go ride...lol


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
Topic Posts: 3