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cayc
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, July 19th (Friday)

OMFG!!!! The most ridic day EVER!

First the crack agent at Customs & Border Protection pulled me into secondary to search my luggage. Because you know a 46 year-old federal USG official just might be smuggling something in from Mexico

THEN my flight was cancelled so I''m now on the west coast trying to fly to the Midwest.

AND that''s not all folks! First there was the crack TSA agent who couldn''t cope with the fact that my maiden name as my middle name on my plane ticket didn''t match my IDs (which doesn''t have it) despite the 2 passports, global entry ID, and official USG government ID ... he had to call his supervisor over (who had the grace to roll her eyes @ him), BUT TSA agent #2 had to SEARCH MY HAIR piled on top of my head in a clip after I had just gone thru the full body X-ray machine. Jesus fucking Christ. Sorry to my Christian friends but saying cheese & rice just doesn''t quite cut it right now.

So how is this NB related???? Sigh. Because I''m flying to see my SO TG (the sweet man really needs a better moniker, I''m going to have to think of sth) because I''m now in an LDR. Fuck. The thing I MOST didn''t want in a new relationship.

It''s temporary, for about 3 months, we reached the decision jointly as the best thing to do ... but I really didn''t want this. This trip is good too bc I''m going to meet his family this weekend. He''s being awesome. He knows this is a trigger for me. He says over & over just ask, whatever you need to feel safe. And I do. But still the crap trigger feeling still reads it''s head at least once a day & I''m using a lot of mental energy to stay on an even keel about this.

Overall I''m grateful. I have a man who suits me, who enriches my life, who will support my career & put it first. But why the LDR?I feel so cursed at the constant challenges that bedevil me on the relationship front. Who did I kill in a former life that has this much mojo to give me crap today?

At least the airport lounge I''m sitting in has a full bar. I really do like my Manhattans


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3122 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, July 19th (Friday)

Coincidentally, I was in airports today-also coming back from my SO LDR. My course was uneventful;just the obligatory feel-up from the TSA agent and I was ready to roll

Sorry your day was so rough. Hopefully your weekend will be restful


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


Posts: 1753 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:21 PM, July 19th (Friday)

Welcome back to the States. I know it can be 10 shades of ridiculous going through the TSA, but it's for a good cause. (your SO, not the TSA)


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20284 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 1:33 AM, July 20th (Saturday)

Oh, been there, done that. Traveling on a passport and Green Card that don't match in names because of name change in between the date of issuing them, carrying a certified copy of my marriage license and the average TSA agent just can't put it together. They have frisked me more times I care to remember. I have been singled out, being about 7 months pregnant and traveling with my then 4 year old.

I sure hope they really catch the bad guys :-) Welcome back and please refrain from any further smuggling.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 5:04 AM, July 20th (Saturday)

Well..... You're giving me faith that the $110 I spend this week to finally update my passport to my married name (which I kept after the divorce) was worth it, three years after I put it on my to do list.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13798 | Registered: Jul 2011
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, July 20th (Saturday)

Well I hope you have a great weekend and a safe trip even with all the aggravation. Once the travel part is over the rest of the trip will be worth it.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:59 AM, July 20th (Saturday)

Bwah, ha ha!! That was a perfect vent.

I feel so cursed at the constant challenges that bedevil me on the relationship front. Who did I kill in a former life that has this much mojo to give me crap today?

^^^ I've thought to myself, "What the hell did I do in a previous life to deserve this mess?? Musta been baaaad."

The good news...you get to see your SO and meet his family!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4185 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, July 20th (Saturday)

I travel for work mostly nationally but some international.

One of my colleagues and I are going to start a travel stories blogs.

What a sucky day! I feel your pain on that. When travel goes wrong it really seems to go wrong! I almost lost my global access pass over a forgotten granola bar that I was smuggling in from Canada


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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