Topic: In Law Birthday
Member # 37225
| Posted: 10:42 AM, July 21st (Sunday)|
We have been separated 3 weeks. My Mother in law's birthday is coming up in a few weeks. Do I send a card?
I feel bad ignoring it, however, I haven't heard from her since our separation so I am kind of at a loss on how to proceed. I think she actually will be visiting WH right before her birthday
What did you all do?
Not sure DD 10/6/2012
No doubt in my mind DD 04/2013
Sleeping in Separate Bedrooms 12/2012
Formal Separation 6/2013
Divorce Final 12/2013
Admitted Affair 4/2014
Posts: 251 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 10866
| Posted: 10:54 AM, July 21st (Sunday)|
Do you have children? If so, I would send a card from them.
It's really up to you how you want to proceed with your mother in law. I am NC with ex's whole family.
Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays - 1 was too many
"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid
Posts: 15249 | Registered: Jun 2006
Member # 32847
| Posted: 10:59 AM, July 21st (Sunday)|
Do you have kids with the guy? If so, I would probably send a card. There's no sense burning that bridge if there is going to have to be contact with mil where the grandkids are concerned. If you don't, and there is not a good relationship with mil (as there doesn't seem to be since she dropped you like a hot potato), I wouldn't *necessarily* sweat the card. I didn't have to deal with that scenario, because my mother in law passed away the day before I actually confirmed the latest affair. But I'm still on good terms with my other in-laws so I imagine I would've been with her too. In fact, my fil just stopped by the house on his way back home to say bye (they had come up for my dd's sweet 16).
Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...
Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
Member # 27071
| Posted: 10:22 PM, July 21st (Sunday)|
Send the card; sign it yourself. If you have children who can write, or scribble, whatever, let them do it. Take the higher road. If nothing else, it will annoy her and your stbx that you are more kind than they are.
Actions ALWAYS have consequences. Too bad cheaters don't consider the consequences BEFORE they create so much damage.
Posts: 435 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 34678
| Posted: 10:36 PM, July 21st (Sunday)|
For now, keep the lines of communication open if you have children. I wish I would have,,,,
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Posts: 1972 | Registered: Jan 2012
Member # 33698
| Posted: 11:55 AM, July 22nd (Monday)|
I would send one, but if you don't hear anything from her (like for your birthday), then I would take that as her way of telling you that she's gone NC with you.
It also depends on your previous relationship with her. My former in-laws have stayed in contact with me, acknowledged my birthday, etc. They were great to me when I was married, and they continue to be kind to me and to reach out from time to time, so there's no way that I would purposefully cut off that relationship unless they did first or they were being hurtful to me.
BS (Me) 39
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Posts: 3537 | Registered: Oct 2011
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