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Member # 39488
Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, July 21st (Sunday)

I finally sent a text back to Bf. I told him that i was sick of the excuses and he needs to tell exactly what is up. I told him how hes treating me in a way I do not deserve nor tolerate. He isnt treating me like im his girlfriend just a distant stranger, I told him this isnt how a relationship works. I told him I want answers. Because when the lawsuit is over is there going to be more excuses as to why we cant hang out and see eachother. I told him I expect honesty and I dont feel that is he is being totally honest with me and that is a problem, I am a patient person but when I feel like I am on the back burner, I am going to say something.
im guessing I wont hear back from him for a long time. then I have my answer.
He needs to grow balls and say it. I am not going to give him the easy way out. Thats not my style.

Posts: 131 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, July 21st (Sunday)

Good for you, realizing you are worth more than shoddy treatment.

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

Posts: 5521 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Member # 26152
Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, July 21st (Sunday)

Don't know why you bothered with the message. Just dump him, no contact, no messages. What could he possibly do or say to make things right? Nothing!

Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12

Posts: 1500 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Kentucky
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, July 21st (Sunday)

Sounds like you are on the right track.

It's disappointing, but better to realize now before you are too deep in.

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 39488
Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, July 21st (Sunday)

its done. He and I are over. He tried flipping it like it was my fault for actually saying something. I thought this time a part would do us good. I got a lot of projects going and I thought I could handle it all but I can't you want to much from me. He took no responsibility for it at all. Its my fault.
This is why I never date.
Its totally not my fault. I tried to communicate to him but he cant with me. WoWZer
bring on the tissues. It actually hurts this time.
I know that I am too good for him.

[This message edited by eyenight at 10:54 PM, July 21st (Sunday)]

Posts: 131 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:09 PM, July 21st (Sunday)

((((eyenight)))) Sorry you are hurting, honey.

You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams

Posts: 25667 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 39755
Default  Posted: 12:57 AM, July 22nd (Monday)

EyeNight-I'm so sorry this asshat broke your heart. Take some time to heal up babe. Try to figure out who you are. Confident women will attract "leeches" & other confident ppl. You can & will attract someone who is a happily, willing partner.

I'm very sorry you are hurting. Stay in touch! Duffy1958

Me-SAHW soon 55
Him-asshat age 60
Married 3.5 years together 13.5
Step-children 8 altogether Grandchildren.
Cheaters are the same yesterday, today & forever. They may have different caveats but they lie the same & pull the same shit.

Where i

Posts: 114 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
Member # 39488
Default  Posted: 1:10 AM, July 22nd (Monday)

I'm just a little sad. But I'm okay. I don't think bf was that honest with me hr seemed very defensive. My heart of hearts tells me he's lying to me. I looked at his facebook now it's locked down. I shouldn't have to fight for someone who is making me nothing in their life. He put it all on me like its my fault. I did nothing wrong. I know that. It's all him and he can't handle it. It's like he can hang with all his friends all the time but I'm too much to deal with. I guess not ready for me.

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