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FogHater
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Member # 33156
Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, July 22nd (Monday)

I am signing the papers on Friday.
What comes next?
I am feeling relief, a little nervous about this but mostly calm.
I can do this, right?


I don't know what I'm doing
but I know what I'm not doing

Posts: 1301 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Illinois
hurtbs
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Member # 10866
Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, July 22nd (Monday)

Yes, you can do this. 100%.

I'm not sure of the process in Illinois and a lot of depends onw hether the divorce is contested or uncontested, children involved, property, etc. Take it one step at a time.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

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Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
roughroadahead
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Member # 36060
Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, July 22nd (Monday)

Are you filing the complaint? You have a month-ish (28 days where I am) while you sit around and await the answer and/or counterclaims.

Waffle launched his surprise filing missile at the beginning of May, and we had our first pre-trial, about temp custody, originally scheduled for next week. Turns out his lawyer had a conflict and we're awaiting the reschedule.

If it is uncontested, and there's no hurdles in negotiating the settlement, it can be over quite quickly (in this state, three months or so). Some states have longer waiting periods. Mine is contested, so we're looking at next year before it's final.

You have totally got this!


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 739 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
FogHater
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Member # 33156
Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, July 22nd (Monday)

Yes I have filed first...
I'm hoping he doesn't contest it...
But he might not want to give up his money...


I don't know what I'm doing
but I know what I'm not doing

Posts: 1301 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Illinois
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