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overcoming2003
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, July 22nd (Monday)

I have been posting previously about the possibility of my husband and I separating. I have truly been agonizing over this because we have been married for 15 years and together 17. But the signs of cheating have always been there after I knew that he cheated once. I was never able to prove any others.

I went away to see my father who is very ill and we (husband and I) got separate phone plans. I told him that as of Aug 1, I was moving out. This has been a couple of months ago. He has asked me to be with him. Please don't do this. He is a changed man etc. He got arrested a year ago and now has a felony, that was kind of the last straw for me...but I have been so undecided. Now that we are down to the last couple of weeks, I have really been torn up about it. Just upset and not sure if it was right.

Well, got access to his old phone, which has only been turned off for a few days. I found a PHOTOS! Photos of a woman whom he claims was his counselor for multiple sclerosis support group. She has clothes on, but the photos are of her back side. She was posing to show her butt. I also got her phone number out of his phone. I am not sure if I want to call, because I simply just don't care. She can have him.

Additionally, There are other women in his phone log...one that I know he dated before me. AND another woman named...well, I suppose I shouldn't say. But he talks to her every day! I mean a lot!!!!!

I asked God to give me confirmation that I was doing the right thing...well I guess I got it....

Am I hurt?! NO! I think I can move on and have peace about this now. I feel relieved. Does he know that I have this info? NO. What is the point?

[This message edited by overcoming2003 at 10:57 PM, July 22nd (Monday)]


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deena
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Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, July 22nd (Monday)

You have given him plenty of chances to prove himself.
I am glad that you have gotten your confirmation to move on!
Good luck!!!!

This last bit you didn't need, like a slap in the face, but think of it as a wake up call and enjoy your new life!!


Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.


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Jospehine85
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Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, July 22nd (Monday)

(((overcoming2003)))


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

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overcoming2003
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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, July 22nd (Monday)

It is always good to hear from you Deena. Well, I can say, he has great taste! She is absolutely breath takingly gorgeous. I am just not sure what she wants with him?!

At any rate...I don't care. It is perhaps time to focus on me and let go. He did mention that she was helping him find a place to live after Aug 1 because he doesn't have any place to go.

She is supposed to be his counselor. Whatever! I was gullible enough to believe him. SMH

Josephine...thank you for the hugs.


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Dawn58
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Default  Posted: 12:01 AM, July 23rd (Tuesday)

Clarity is such a gift!! You have your answer now and can start to move on with your life!!

((hugs))

Dawn58


I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

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overcoming2003
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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, July 23rd (Tuesday)

For sure, Dawn58....

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wontdefineme
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Default  Posted: 12:17 AM, July 23rd (Tuesday)

Beauty is only skin deep, especially if you are a lying, cheating, pos.

This may be all she has going for her. Eventually we all age, and then what will she have? Hopefully, your second hand throw aways that will cheat on her aging rear that has no substance.


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wontdefineme
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Default  Posted: 12:17 AM, July 23rd (Tuesday)

Beauty is only skin deep, especially if you are a lying, cheating, pos.

This may be all she has going for her. Eventually we all age, and then what will she have? Hopefully, your second hand throw aways that will cheat on her aging rear that has no substance.


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overcoming2003
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, July 23rd (Tuesday)

For sure, wontdefineme! However, I don't know that she even knows about me. I know that he has talked to her on the phone when I was with him and I was talking in the background. However, she never asked about me.

I asked about her and WH said that she was his MS counselor. This isn't the correct behavior and suspected that he was lying even then.


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