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Douchebagfree
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)

So it's been over a month since the house sold. I told douchebag that the lawyer would keep the proceeds from the sale of the house until the divorce is final.
I have not heard a peep from him. The Twinkie is giving birth next month so you'd think he'd need the money.
I'd get the ball rolling but the only way we can get a quick divorce is if he agrees that it's because of his infidelity. He still denies anything was going on before I asked him to move out
Umm seriously. You moved out the first week of November and she is giving birth next month. I'm no genius, but that's pretty simple math.

Why do you guys think he's not moving this along?


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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)

He thinks you need the money, so he is dragging his feet. If you just blow it off, he'll suddenly be asking you every day for the money.....

I hate dealing with these types of people.!!!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 11:56 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)

Are they having the state pay for the birth ? He may not want to show any capitol gains until after the birth.
I just heard something similar with another BS.

I'd get the ball rolling but the only way we can get a quick divorce is if he agrees that it's because of his infidelity. He still denies anything was going on before I asked him to move out
This might be why he isn't moving on it. And you damn well know it's ALL your fault he doesn't have the money.

[This message edited by gma56 at 12:02 AM, July 25th (Thursday)]


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movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

Fuck him, keep the money and make some interest off of it.


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movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

Before you have to pay him I mean. He doesn't ask for it. Oh well.

And of course he doesn't want a quick divorce. You are his soft place to land when shit doesn't go right with them. And trust me, after "new baby" feelings wear off, those days will be coming in abundance.


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movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

I bet he will come around asking for the money when shit doesn't go right between them. He is using the money as a way to maintain contact with you.


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Douchebagfree
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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)

Other than the actual divorce this is the last tie that I have to him so I'd really like to get it resolved as quick as possible but it doesn't look like that's going to happen.
I had to email him some final bills for the house today and there was no mention of anything divorce related. Oh well, guess I'll have to wait it out and see what happens.

Thanks ladies. I can always count on you for some good advice and some eye openers.


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