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cs2384
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

I get an inkling that the AP has been cheating. Almost 2 years later I hear from his BS. She made a lot of self deprecating comments and said she's here to talk if I'm not afraid. I'm afraid as hell but I'm taking this as a request. I replied that I will be open and honest with her about everything. That I don't think she's a witch like she suggested I must think and that I don't love her husband.


God, forgive me for doing this to this woman.

Any other advice? My plan is to answer her questions, not discuss myself, and hopefully help her find some answers.


WW--me 28
BH--32
Married ten years
Two daughters 7 and 8
In recovery

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Later
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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

What does your husband have to say about this?

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cs2384
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

That the guy is obviously a tool. I refuse any contact with AP


WW--me 28
BH--32
Married ten years
Two daughters 7 and 8
In recovery

Posts: 86 | Registered: Feb 2012
cs2384
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

Well never mind. My heart aches for this woman. Just got email from her husband all apologetic asking to let it go he won't contact me and please don't contact him blah blah blah. Yeah, I already told you I wouldn't contact you. Going to send crickets but now I'm worried about his wife. She deserves answers. I'm willing to dish everything and I don't think she knows that. He obviously deserves nothing. What about her?


WW--me 28
BH--32
Married ten years
Two daughters 7 and 8
In recovery

Posts: 86 | Registered: Feb 2012
BaxtersBFF
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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

I would say that if she makes contact again, you should talk with her. It might go a long way if your BH was there with you. Seems like many BS's don't really trust what the AP has to say, unless it lines up with stuff they already know. your BH could confirm many of the things you might tell the other BS.


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

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cs2384
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

The place I'm at now is I'm not sure she got the email where i offer everything I know. . She emailed me from his account and so did he. And now the account is gone. They're overseas(thank heavens) so email is the only option. I've already blocked all know email addresses of his. I know her email though. I just don't want to injure. But I'd hate for her to reach out and think she's getting crickets when her husband is covering tracks....there is no way to know.


WW--me 28
BH--32
Married ten years
Two daughters 7 and 8
In recovery

Posts: 86 | Registered: Feb 2012
BaxtersBFF
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

Nope, no way to know. If she used his email, then he is probably in huge CYA mode and telling her you're a crazy-ass woman who will stalk and kill them if you meet them.

Hopefully the BW had the foresight to email your info to her own email account.


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6097 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
cs2384
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

I think that's what is going on he gaslights her majorly two years ago and I was too far in the fog to want to help out. She sent me emails then begging for information and I ignored. I'm in a MUCH better place now and wouldn't mind dishing on this guy be audit sounds like he's up to the same old antics. Especially since he sent me a letter. I really don't want to hear from him EVER again.


WW--me 28
BH--32
Married ten years
Two daughters 7 and 8
In recovery

Posts: 86 | Registered: Feb 2012
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