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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

I'm 15 pounds up from where I was last summer, when my marriage was in the crapper. I exercise about the same amount, but obviously now I eat more and I'm actually able to digest food now.

I'd rather be fat and happy than skinny and miserable, but if I could have my druthers, I'd choose skinny and happy. Anyone else gain weight when their marriage improved?


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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justdoit
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

Yup - and I'm with you - fatter and happier beats thin and miserable, but thin and happy would be a dream come true. What about your WH? Did he lose weight after DDay? Mine didn't lose and ounce - ate like life was good. Just another thing that pissed me off!!


Me - 60
WH - 67
Married 35 years
DDay - 5/14/09
He's reconciled, I'm in limbo.
"Stuck in the middle with you"

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

I lost about 30 lbs within the first two months after my d-days. Now my marriage is better, and I just got back from vacation, and I am about 40 lbs up.

I need to lose the weight, but frick... the way I lost it with the infidelity diet was not healthy by any means. I'm looking forward to shedding the extra pounds in a much more humane method this go around!!


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PrincessPeach06
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

I am only a couple months in and struggling to gain weight. I lost 5 pounds right after Dday and was already super thin so it was a lot for me. I have gained back 2 but still am constantly shaky and not always eating well.

WS has gained 10 pounds in the 2 months! I guess stress does things differently to people.


Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

What about your WH? Did he lose weight after DDay?

After D-Day 1, I can't remember if he lost weight, but he was a wreck and his stomach was a mess.

After D-Day 2, oh, he was feeling fine about himself. He had done nothing wrong and he was going to get himself in shape (presumably for all the ladies out there ) so he started buying heads of lettuce, yogurt, and cottage cheese, and went from sedentary to doing P90X.

Now that he's a normal person again, he's put on some weight and he wants to lose it. We just sold our house recently and moved into an apartment (we're building) and between all the showings on our house and moving/unpacking, we've both been eating out WAY too much. So even though it's tough in a small space, I'm going to try to cook healthier meals for us (and stop buying ice cream!)


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

WS has gained 10 pounds in the 2 months! I guess stress does things differently to people.

Low-level stress (like worrying over a project at work, there's something wrong with my car but I don't know what, etc. makes me nervous and snacky). High-level stress, like interpersonal conflict and - of course - infidelity - renders me unable to eat and gives me, um, frequent trips to the potty. Sorry TMI.


Losfer good luck with your humane weight loss efforts! I'm with ya.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I don't even want to talk about it. I am literally like 5 pounds from what I weighed when I had my dd. I am trying so hard, but my 45 year old body just laughs at me. Laughs and laughs.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Only 6 weeks out, and I've lost about a pound a week. I needed to, but have only had 1 or 2 normal bathroom trips since DD. i've been exercising a lot, which helps with stress relief. Is it sustainable? I am sure not.


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I lost about 15 pounds the first month after Dday, and then gained about 25 pounds the second and third months. Not sure why... my eating habits have stayed the same.


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Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

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broken81
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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Right after DDay we both lost weight.
Now that we arent constantly stressing, and we are spending alot more time together we both have gained weight.
We have taken many trips, alot more dinners and lunches out plus a short lived pregnancy have made me put on some weight.
Atleast I have enjoyed the weight gain i guess


Me BS
him fWS
M 8yrs 2 kids
DD 2/12 lies until 4/12
2.5 yr A with an OLD married whore
working on R

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

my 45 year old body just laughs at me. Laughs and laughs.

Tell your body to cut that shit out and quit being a jerk!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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TheTooGoodWife
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I had already lost 20 pounds by the time WH confessed due to medication I had been taking for my thyroid and then lost another 30, so 50 in total. My weight has stabilised but I still need to lose another 70 to be in a healthy weight range for my height, age and bone structure. This is one of the things that I am dealing with in therapy as my weight is a self protection shell due to sexual abuse as a child.

ETA: WH became very skinny after d-day, he actually had a nervous breakdown when he saw how his A affected me and was booked off for over 2 months. Now he has gained all that back with interest

[This message edited by TheTooGoodWife at 1:25 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]


Me-BW-46
WH-43
M-13 yrs together 15 yrs, 2 DS 11 & 8
D-Day 20 May '12 WH confessed, PA 4 months 06/2008-10/2008 cOW
His A says nothing about me but everything about him

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HeartInADustpan
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

The early post dday months I lost almost dangerously fast. About 25-30lbs. I literally need to buy a new wardrobe because nothing fits anymore. Since we've been in full swing R, not sure if I've gained any back, but I have stopped losing and my new clothes still fit.


Just call me Heart. :)
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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Tell your body to cut that shit out and quit being a jerk!

I do! And then my body says, "hey, know what would be fun? We should have a beer!" and so I say, "ok!" and then my body says, "sucka!" and gains a pound.

Tricky. And I keep falling for it.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

My body does that too but with ice cream.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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wert
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Life observation - A good IPA is worth every pound.

I dropped 10 and have balanced out right around there. Maybe its the running, soccer or yoga. Perhaps the biking with the kids. Oh wait, I did that stuff prior to the A!

take care...



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wanttogoforward
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

It really sucks that we ladies need to worry about weight all the time!
After dday I lost about 10 lbs... and I didn't need to lose any... he acted repulsed by my looks- admit my rib cage and collar bone did stick out more, but it still wasn't really any of his damn business- afterall he caused this.
Now 3 years later I'm up about 5 from then...still a few under where I was, but I do look healthier... he keeps saying I could gain more and he'd be happy but I have no intentions of gaining anything... I'm happy where I'm at... It's about me not him!

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PinkJeepLady
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Yes I did and it's driving me crazy! I haven't had this issue before and when I have been through other high stress things I didn't gain. What the heck??? One more thing to blame on the cheating!


Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
R-ing
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blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I have lost about 20 pounds in 10 months...most of which I attribute to regular exercise in an effort to work through my anger and pain. I also have reduced appetite.

I am within 5 pounds of my highschool weight. I would buy new pants but have spent all of my extra money on MC sessions, a weekend workshop, and countless books!

I would prefer to be happy and in shape...but being unhappy and having other people comment on how good I am looking helps my mood improve. Oh to be happy again...

I know...I am a guy...and the whole weight thing does not affect me as it does women. Just wanted to mention it is not strictly a "woman" issue.

I am curious what my cholesterol is doing....has been really high and have been told weight loss can have a beneficial affect on cholesterol.

At the end of the day....the actual stress of this trauma and ITS negative affect on our body is much more of a player then our weight loss journey.

I see how I have aged, how my wife has aged...during this. We LOOK like we have aged several years since 1 year ago....i don't mind getting older, but do think there is a co-relation between this outward aging process and internal degradation.

Now I see I have gotten into a dark spot again.....where are those dang twinkies?!?!?!

God be with us all.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I know...I am a guy...and the whole weight thing does not affect me as it does women. Just wanted to mention it is not strictly a "woman" issue.

I don't think it's a woman issue - men have bodies too and I'm sure y'all have body issues, they're just different than ours. My dad, husband, and brother all bemoan their skinny calves while I'm thinking, if ANYTHING on me were skinny I'd brag! But seriously, this question was for both the mars and venus people.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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HeartInADustpan
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Now I see I have gotten into a dark spot again.....where are those dang twinkies?!?!?!

Ice cream sandwiches are my "go to" so you can mix it up a little!


Just call me Heart. :)
Reconciling
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" ~Mark Twain

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unfound
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

oh yeah.

lost 40lbs quick on the I-diet. then slowwwwwly over 7 years gained it all back and then some.

there were a couple of years inbetween that I looked pretty damned good though .


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Bikingguy
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I might be the exception here. I gained about 7 or 8 pounds in the first couple of months after D day.

However in the 7 months before D day I started running and lost 22 pounds. After D day while I was sick to my stomach often I also stopped working out - lost the desire.

I am happy to say once I stopped worrying about us and focused on me, I was able to start working out again and have lost the weight gain plus a pound or two. More than the weight is my health. Started swimming and really feel fit. Actually starting to get a little bit of a swagger/self confidence. But I live in Socal where everyone is supper fit!


Me: BH, 44
Her: WW, 43
D day. January 12, 2013

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myperfectlife
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I was already losing, but in 3 months I lost over 30lbs. Just could not eat.
I am at the same weight I was when I was 16 and it's a "healthy" weight for me although it wasn't lost in a healthy way.
My appetite is returning and my body is craving junky carbs. I know I have to watch what I put in my mouth, but right now I am still eating way less calories than I need to so I eat whatever sounds good.
That will need to change very soon.
None of the work clothes I wore in May fit me anymore. I have dropped 3 sizes. I go back to work next week for the fall so I guess a new wardrobe is in order?
Thanks, honey! /sarcasm


I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13

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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I think I gained almost 20 lbs during the A and the aftermath, and I started out way overweight. I'm starting to take it off now.

W lost weight during her A. I wish it had been because of guilt, but it wasn't. She was afraid ow would out her, so she couldn't sleep or eat. She was below 92 lbs on a 5'2" or 5'3" frame.

One of her requirements for R was to reach and maintain a healthy weight, which she has done.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Well in the first 2 months lost about 20 lbs but since I have gained about 70lbs.

My guy is a huge fitness person gym, hockey, rollerblading etc.. After much IC and contemplation therapist & I have figured out my best way to punish & test him was to be what he didn't want & dare him to stay.

Now we are on a good path & he is so supportive of my journey to lose this weight in my way. He knows not to push just support.

I am hopeful I can get back to my fighting weight


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

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ArableSands
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Sorry, I've lost weight, but not in a good way. I had built up a fair amount of bulk, but now my muscles are all gone because I'm not eating enough.

Well, maybe not "all gone." But diminished. I was working out hard to get into a kendo class this fall.


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DoneWithLove
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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I have lost about 15 lbs and H has lost about 25 lbs since the A. We dont plan on gaining back any weight, instead we have tried to make healthier decisions and get into shape. We both love our weight loss, kept it off and love how we feel now. We plan on joining a gym together and are being more active, especially when it comes to our kids. I dont think size is important, its about how you feel and your health. Good luck


BW: Me (24)
FWH: Him (24) Jlaz1988ws
Together 11/12/06
2 sons, ages 5 and 1
Married 9/29/12
EA turned PA with OW/ coworker for 2- 4 weeks
D day 4/20/13
TT 4/20/13 - 7/30/13
"R" 5/3/13

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BFFGone
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Initially lost...then gained...then lost....now I've sustained an injury that doesn't let me move and I'm terrified of gaining!! I'm,really hard on myself about weight, and I need tone nice to me right now. R is really flipping hard!!!


I choose to thrive. I choose to be happy.

That which doesn't kill me makes me stronger...but damn, aren't I strong enough yet???


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JustWow
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I lost 35 on the infidelity diet.

I gained 48 with the HB baby pregnancy.

Still trying to lose the last 20 of that.

And HB baby is now 40 pounds (5 1/2 years later )


BW - Reconciling

edited for typos (I always have to!)


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OldCow18
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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

I'm only just under 7 weeks post d-day and am down 15 pounds.


Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

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blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Loving your sense of humor on this post and others JanaGreen! I still love to laugh!!!

HeartInADustpan...thanks for the suggestion....I DO love ice cream sandwiches. (glad I didn't sell my fat jeans!)

[This message edited by blakesteele at 8:27 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

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BeautifulEmpty
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Default  Posted: 12:37 AM, July 26th (Friday)

I've gained 13 lbs since last year. My body does it as soon as the major stress wanes but I'm still in unhappy limbo so it says 'let's pack on a few pounds cuz THAT will make you feel SUPER SEXY while you are struggling with self esteem issues.
It's frustrating because I eat an extremely rigid diet where even my occasional cheats are super clean. Pisses me off but whatever. I need to get my bountiful butt back to the gym but sadly, this gym (which I love) is closely associated in terms of triggers with OW even though they were happy to verify for me that she was no longer going there.


Me: 42 BS
Him: 38 ws
Ow: 44 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 21, 18, 17, 15, 10
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.

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Default  Posted: 4:57 AM, July 26th (Friday)

Pre 'enlightened' I weighed 123- 126 lbs which was good.

Post DDay I fell to 112 at my worst (I am 170 cms tall) and fought to get up to 118 which I kinda loved. My antiD's meant I threw up most days for over 12 months!!

Now? Contentment and being woo'd and enjoying my food without the worry of barfing has seen me rise up to 144 lbs at my worst. I was never that heavy before apart from when I was pregnant!

I am now trying to lose this and am at 135lbs and aiming to lose about a stone.

Why? Because I was most in control of things when I was 118lb and felt SEXY even when FWH was with ow and my life was a mess.

I know that sounds a bit anorexic in thinking but it was true. I could throw anything on and look fab and that, coupled with the fact the exercise I did to ease my stress gave me a Jennifer Nicole lee body silhouette, helped me get through one of the worst, most traumatic episodes I had ever encountered!!

For me? Thin yet muscular and happy is my ideal. I hate the way I currently look!

ETA. I also think there's a subconscious part of me that wanted to get bigger to see if he'd still want me. Messed up or what?

[This message edited by MrsDoubtfire at 4:59 AM, July 26th (Friday)]


BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now becomeć

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GraceisGood
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, July 26th (Friday)

I was in the process of losing weight prior to D=day, was down about 30 lbs. After D-day, the weight loss stopped. I kept up with the plan that took the 30 off for two more months, but no loss. I then went back to "normal" eating, no gain, no loss.

over the last 5 years I have lost about 20 more due to upping exercise, but that is it.

I can not eat for a few days, and I do not lose, I can eat whatever I want and not gain.

I am in a serious holding pattern, and still need to lose about 50 lbs.

I believe I gained weight due to stress during the M (that gut feeling I could never prove which caused deep inner turmoil), and the damage caused by 2 decades of non stop stress has not stopped IMO, thankfully I have not gained, but whatever my body needs to lose weight it has not found yet.

Grace


We have a tendency to think the love offered us is a reflection of our worth and value.But in actuality,it's a reflection of the person that is giving it.We love out of who WE are-not because of who the receiver is.At least in terms of real love.TSMF

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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, July 26th (Friday)

I was already working out with a trainer when we separated last year. I lost 30 lbs between working out and the infidelity diet. He says he lost about 10lbs.

THEN, we started dating again. That meant food. "Come to the house and I'll cook dinner." "Let's go out for dinner tonight."

We continued the kids' visitation schedule for the first 2 months of dating. I would get depressed on his overnights. He would spend the day with me and then the 3 of them would leave me to go to his apartment. Ben and Jerry became my best friends!

Once he came home, it got worse. Now, instead of getting up at 5am to work out, all I want to do is lay in the bed in his arms for as long as I can! No more soup/sandwiches/cereal for dinner. Now, it's full blown meals plus desserts! I've gained back the 30 lbs plus 5 more!

I just call it my "so glad to be happy again" weight!

Oh, and Ben and Jerry are his best friends now too! He's gained back about 20 lbs!


Me (45) WH (42),2 boys 14 & 11
M 18yrs T 22yrs
Separated 10 months (4/12 to 2/13)
Final Total - #1/#2 ONS and #3/#4 EA/PA - left me for #4, didn't know about #2 and 3 until he moved back home
We are solidly in R now

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Deanna
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, July 26th (Friday)

I lost 35 and have gained all that back plus 10. I am not happy about this. I loved my thinner self!


DDay - 11/4/09
BS-49 DDay
fWS-46 DDay
EA/PA with childhood sweetheart/ kissed
R - 11/25/09
Life is not a dress rehearsal

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crestfallen
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Waving hand.....On the I diet I lost about 20 pounds...I probably needed to lose 5. Since I'm a shorty (5'4"), the last 15 turned me into a skeletor, which was not a good thing.

In the last 18 months, I gained back 15 and look normal now...fit and healthy....

Two places I'd never like to visit again...the infidelity diet and the death of a parent diet!


BS-me-57
WH-57
Married 32 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

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libertyrocks
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Yes, I went from 98lbs to 108! :) Hubby gained a few pounds, too. We basically gained from HB what we lost during infidelity diet.

Oh, and I'll take some cheez-its for my midnight snack. And, then get up again, to get seconds. lol.

[This message edited by libertyrocks at 12:38 PM, July 29th (Monday)]


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

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DWBH
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, July 29th (Monday)

I dropped 9 lbs within a month of DDay #1.

Today, I'm 20 lbs heavier than that way-too-low-point...

Before the A, my weight was locked in for like 10 years.


Me: BH, 43
Her: FWW, 41 (ThornyRose)
M: 16 years, together 19
2 Daughters: 14 and 12
D Day: 9/25/2011; Lies & TT to 5/4/2012
~Double betrayal; caught them in the act~

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