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BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

So I am officially getting married in 16 days!

My DD's dad (ex who cheated, was physically abusive, and finally sealed out break-up by leaving DD home alone at 10 months old so he could go to the bar) is not thrilled about this. He hasn't really said anything up til now- not created problems at all, but we just haven't spoken a lot about it.

Then, yesterday while I was at work, I get a text from him: "Do you have any idea what it is like feeling like the love of your life is waking up next to the wrong man every morning and there is nothing you can do about it? Don't get me wrong, I want you to be happy, but I just don't understand why you can't give me another chance."

My response?

"I'm sorry you feel that way. We haven't been together for 4 years now."

Him: "Do you have any idea what it is like not seeing DD for 12 days in a row?"

Me: "You know, I have a really hard time having sympathy for you. You don't see DD for 12 days in a row because we aren't together anymore. The reason we aren't together anymore is because of your lies, your cheating, your assaultive behavior, and your terrible parenting. You could have chosen differently, but you did not. The fact that you don't see your DD but every other weekend is a result of YOU. I, however, miss seeing my child every other weekend despite the fact that I tried my hardest to make our relationship work even when you were insistant on making it fail. And who I really feel sympathy for is DD, because SHE is the one who is shipped off from one home to another and will continue to have that happen to her until she is 18 years old. I can't imagine my world being rocked like that at four and a half, much less at less than a year old when all of this ridiculousness started. The fact that I have to suffer because of your actions is what is making me, even now, have a hard time feeling any sympathy for your complaints. Because some of us are suffering and will continue to do so, even though we had no choice in the matter. You did."

Silence.
Peace.

:)


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Your response ROCKED!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids (4 Dogs, 2 Cats)

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

Note: I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6354 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
momentintime
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Member # 16394
Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Dead on, he deserved your vent.


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl


Posts: 2938 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York
Mommato4
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Member # 15906
Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

That was great!


Updated 2014:
BS-me 41
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/08

SO-5 years together-he decided to end it by cheating too


Posts: 1377 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
Williesmom
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Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Love this. Good job, and congrats.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7541 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Fantastic response!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1826 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

(And congratulations on your upcoming nuptuals!!)


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids (4 Dogs, 2 Cats)

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

Note: I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6354 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

What a selfish whiny ass.

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 24998 | Registered: Aug 2011
Bluebird26
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Member # 36445
Default  Posted: 3:15 AM, July 26th (Friday)

Congrats on your upcoming nuptials.

You were very restrained.

Do you have any idea what it is like feeling like the love of your life is waking up next to the wrong man every morning and there is nothing you can do about it?

I seriouly can't believe he said that, what a jerk. I would have replied, yes I do know how that feels, you did that to me. With a few other choice words


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1318 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
anewday78
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Member # 39357
Default  Posted: 6:39 AM, July 26th (Friday)

Congrats on getting hitched! Your response was awesome. I bet it felt great to put that out there and even better when he didn't respond. I mean, how can he argue with what you wrote? Good for you!

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