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hurtbs
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Member # 10866
Exclaimation  Posted: 6:19 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

Came across a photo of him and some details through our shared social network (first time in almost a year).

In the photo he has gained a ton of weight - 20-30 pounds. He was already carrying an extra 20-30 lbs to begin with... He's also wearing a shirt we got on our vacation overseas (a cheap local t-shirt).

He didn't marry OW2 (the crank whore that tried to get me arrested). He's got a new "soul-mate" but he's also active on online dating... (he hit on a friend of mine on Match a couple of weeks ago).

So he's behaving the same way but got a new victim, I mean girlfriend.... and he's looking worse than ever.

That probably sounds petty of me, but I'm going to enjoy it. I know tha I'll probably gain some weight and will definitely age, but I know I won't be trolling online dating while leading some poor sap on and abusing my partner.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
momentintime
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Member # 16394
Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

His is an empty life. Enjoy your freedom.


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl


Posts: 2982 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York
traicionada
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Member # 10310
Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

You're so much better off without his pathetic self holding you back If you catch yourself grinning like a crazy one today or tomorrow it is because you & the furbabies are finally living the life y'all deserved all along


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

Posts: 3305 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Dallas, Texas
hurtbs
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Member # 10866
Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, July 25th (Thursday)

You're so much better off without his pathetic self holding you back

Oh I realized that long ago!

There's also that slight reassurance that his behavior and character are really not about me, he just switches out partners...


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
hurtbs
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Member # 10866
Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, July 26th (Friday)

Oh and he got fired from his job. He got fired from his last job for sexual harassment (lied to me about it). I don't know why he lost this job this time around but I can guess. Let's just say it's the type of job you have to actively lose; meaning you don't get fired for personality conflicts or even being kind of blase at it. You have to do something egregiously wrong.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
nutmegkitty
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Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, July 26th (Friday)

There's also that slight reassurance that his behavior and character are really not about me, he just switches out partners...

Amen. this is a really important realization.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


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