The 21 year old brat who my husband was emotionally involved with messaged me today. She asked for pictures of her son that died that I have on my computer. She used to live with us and was at one time like a daughter to me. I kicked her out 15 months ago for lewd behavior and drug usage. Then I find out her and my husband were invovled in their innocent version of friendship for 9 months..Im trying to deal with that and today she messages me saying i know you hate me, but could you find it in your heart to send me pictures of my son. I was with her when her baby was stillborn. Thats the reason we took her in to help her deal with her grief...and she was part of the family until she laid her head in my husbands lap last year and was on drugs and stole money from me. How dare he be invovled with her for 9 months as a friend..she costed me my sanity last year.. I had a nervous breakdown thanks to her whining and nagging and crazy behavior. How could he ignore my pain & anguish and talk to her. I am sick..and I want to tell her to shove off! and to think he talked ot her when she was in pain and blew me off becasue I nagged him. im his wife! I can and should be able to call him..and now a reminder today of all days...she messaging me. ughh
[This message edited by Jammy19 at 5:06 PM, July 26th (Friday)]
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Skan Member Member # 35812
Posted: 8:41 PM, July 26th (Friday)
Gather up anything that is hers, copy to a thumb drive, drop off at a relatives or friends house, then send one message that says "your shit is at x-place. Never contact me or my family again or I will pursue a RO against you," and block her. If you want to be nice. If not, crickets and delete her crap. You owe her nothing, not one damned thing. (((hugs)))Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
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canteat Member Member # 39636
Posted: 10:12 PM, July 26th (Friday)
I agree that you don't owe her a damn thing. My first inclination is to tell her to go F*ck herself and delete all her stuff. But thats just the BS in me! In any event, you don't have to decide now what you want to do. You can keep the pics and send her crickets until you decide. Who knows how you will feel in a few months or year from now. She can wait, she can wonder, she can choke on it(sorry,BS venom again). I would block her so you won't get any more texts or emails from her. Don't let her distract you from working on making YOU happy. There should be NC between her and both you and WH. Too bad that she wants to tie up some loose ends. This is not about her. It is about YOU. Don't dwell on this or expend any energy on her at all. She's not worth it.
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Stillstings Member Member # 36549
Posted: 9:33 AM, July 27th (Saturday)
I say delete everything and not say a thing to her. I'm not terribly sympathetic towards entitled adults who think they can treat people however they want.
If she cries about it I wouldn't feel bad. She did this not you.
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