Topic: My dad died.
Member # 8283
| Posted: 2:51 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
He's the last parent I had.
I need advice. I need it so bad I don't known what advice I need, even.
It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls he’d known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.
Posts: 14226 | Registered: Sep 2005 | From: Florida
Member # 27454
| Posted: 3:32 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am so sorry to hear of your huge loss.
I don't know what advice to offer.....
Grief is a path and journey. A long hard one. You can only take it one step at a time.
Hugs to you tonight .....
Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
Member # 17210
| Posted: 3:51 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I don't think there really is any advice possible, at least none that is helpful.
ETA: After some time to think on this, I still have no advice. I find that even 15 years later, the loss of my father is still painful, and I wouldn't change that. Every painful thought reminds me of what I was fortunate to have in the first place.
[This message edited by aesir at 7:45 AM, July 27th (Saturday)]
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Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
Member # 8271
| Posted: 4:41 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
So very sorry for your loss.
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
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Member # 27196
| Posted: 4:57 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so sorry Lady V.
Even though I had my own family, and my sibs, when both Mom and Dad were gone, I felt so alone in the world.
Do you have siblings? Or are you an only child?
We are here for you.
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Posts: 7095 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Member # 32554
| Posted: 5:24 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
Oh, I'm so so sorry! ((((HUGS))))
Do you have people who can come to you IRL and walk with you through this?
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
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Posts: 9821 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 2766
| Posted: 5:45 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so sorry to hear that. I've lost both of my parents too, I have a brother and that helps. Do you have a sibling? This is a time when you can bond with them if you are not close. In my case that is what happened.
Lean on friends....esp. if you have friends who knew your Dad.
I understand that "lost" feeling. I believe he is watching over you...and he's with your mother now.
Time will make it easier. You will always miss him.
Posts: 2586 | Registered: Nov 2003 | From: Niagara-on-the-Lake, Canada
Member # 16024
| Posted: 5:57 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I have no advice, just hugs (((((LadyV))))).
Take up your space (and do it well).
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
Posts: 38002 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 25643
| Posted: 6:01 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
((((ladyV))). I am so sorry
Posts: 1108 | Registered: Sep 2009
Member # 24261
| Posted: 6:13 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Do you have other family members/close friends who can help you through this very difficult time?
DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??
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Posts: 4965 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
Member # 17062
| Posted: 6:18 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
LadyV, I’m so sorry. My Dad died just before Christmas 2011 and my Mum died the day after her birthday on 22nd May this year, 9wks ago. My Godmother died 3wks ago and the funeral was Thursday just gone. It was the shock of my Mum dying.
I think one of the hardest things (apart from having to deal with all the personal effects) is not being able to just pick up the phone and give them a call. My Dad was full of sound, sage advice and my Mum able to give me help with why my jam won’t set.
I feel for you. It’s a very sad time. You don’t need advice, you need someone to give you lots of hugs and understanding. Wrap yourself in the love your Dad had for you and know the memories will always be there. Hugs.
D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
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Posts: 3470 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
Member # 99
| Posted: 6:27 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I lost my father in 1998, and my mother this year on Mother's Day. Losing your last parent is quite unsettling. It's like I don't know how to "be" without a parent.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Huge hugs.
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Posts: 2481 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: North Carolina
Member # 13447
| Posted: 6:33 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so sorry for your loss.
"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*
Posts: 11224 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Just a fool in limbo
Member # 30346
| Posted: 6:44 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
One step at a time. My Dad died 6 years ago and it still takes my breath away.
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
Posts: 4183 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Member # 17890
| Posted: 7:10 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
So sorry for your loss.
what did I ever do to deserve this?
Him: X, 51 PA SA NPD?
2 kids; DD14, DD8 divorced
Posts: 1043 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: east coast
Member # 33699
| Posted: 7:13 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
Sorry for your loss
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Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Member # 10866
| Posted: 7:36 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I have no advice. Just compassion.
Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
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"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid
Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
Member # 2
| Posted: 7:39 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so sorry, I completely understand...I lost both my parents too..
I'm too young to go through the rest of my life not hearing their voices
I need advice. I need it so bad I don't known what advice I need, even.
It's especially hard when exciting things (good or bad) are happening in my life...I don't have either of them to pick up the phone and tell. So, I make sure to 'talk' to them on a daily basis. I keep their memories very much alive in my heart and mind. It also helps that MH loved my mother very much (my dad died in '82) so he has wonderful memories and stories of her as well.
Again, I'm really sorry for your loss.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
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Member # 14866
| Posted: 8:05 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm sorry for your loss LadyV
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Posts: 52586 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 24786
| Posted: 8:05 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I cannot offer advice as I've only lost one parent so don't know what it feels like to lose both.
All I can say (from personal grief when I lost my dad ) is to cry and don't bottle your emotions up and find someone with big shoulders who can just hug you and be a strong presence for you -both now and in the future.
I am so sorry that you have to grieve for someone once more.
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A went underground. True R 02.10
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Posts: 1583 | Registered: Jul 2009
Member # 22478
| Posted: 8:28 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so sorry LadyV. I too am parentless. Although nothing really fills that space, I have made it a point reach out to a couple of older people on holidays, etc. One woman, in particular, was very close with my mother and it makes her day when she hears from me.
May your pain soon be replaced with all the wonderful memories.
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DDay: July 16, 2008
FWH Epiphany: Aug.23, 2008 NC: Aug. 28, 2008
Posts: 5624 | Registered: Jan 2009
Member # 17243
| Posted: 9:15 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Posts: 960 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 15584
| Posted: 9:26 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
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Posts: 4202 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Member # 12802
| Posted: 9:30 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so so sorry LadyV
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Posts: 14861 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
Member # 36622
| Posted: 9:34 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
You are in my prayers
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Member # 26531
| Posted: 9:35 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Posts: 24595 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Member # 36072
| Posted: 9:39 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Member # 33226
| Posted: 9:44 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
Oh, honey. I am so very sorry. (((((LadyV))))) Holding you and your family in my thoughts.
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Member # 24239
| Posted: 9:49 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so sorry Lady V.
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Posts: 20281 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 26584
| Posted: 10:27 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
Hugs and to you and yours. I'm so sorry I wish I knew what to say.
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Posts: 18810 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: OK - Hot as hell here !!!!!!
Member # 6850
| Posted: 10:30 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
So sorry to hear of your Dad's passing....take care of yourself...eat, sleep, steer clear of excessive alcohol, and let yourself grieve...cry when you need to, talk about him, remember the good times and the bad....HUGS
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Posts: 4845 | Registered: Apr 2005 | From: Ontario
Member # 27035
| Posted: 10:35 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
((LadyV)) I'm so sorry for your loss. There really isn't any advice. You'll always miss him and wish you'd had more time. Try to focus on positive memories. It really helps to be with other people that knew and loved him and reminisce about happy things together. Please remember to take care of yourself during this difficult time. ((LadyV))
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Posts: 5243 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
Member # 36134
| Posted: 10:45 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am so sorry. If you need a IRL hug. I think we are nearby.
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Posts: 5262 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 16590
| Posted: 10:58 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
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Posts: 3245 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
Member # 17484
| Posted: 11:08 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so sorry (((ladyV)))
Posts: 6644 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Member # 20150
| Posted: 11:32 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I talk to my mom every day, she has been "gone" since 2010. Still very much alive in my DNA.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
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Posts: 17488 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 25395
| Posted: 11:50 AM, July 27th (Saturday)|
Oh, Lady V, I am so very sorry.
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Posts: 1677 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
Member # 31528
| Posted: 12:04 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Member # 30369
| Posted: 12:18 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
So sorry to hear about your loss.
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| Posted: 12:36 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am so sorry for your loss, LadyV.
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Posts: 355 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Right Here, Canada
Member # 12041
| Posted: 12:40 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am sorry LadyV. Feel free to talk to us if you need to
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| Posted: 12:43 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
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Posts: 4683 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 32943
| Posted: 12:50 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
Adding my hugs and prayers, Lady V.
Do you have any siblings?
Me: BS, 40's.
Posts: 1797 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
Member # 34353
| Posted: 1:16 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am sorry for your loss
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
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Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Member # 26651
| Posted: 1:32 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
So sorry for your loss, LadyV
Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
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Member # 18179
| Posted: 1:40 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm sorry for your loss; I think when you have a child (or children) you mourn not only for the loss of your parent but also for the loss of your child's grandparent. It's a disorienting, sad time. My thoughts are with you.
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Posts: 3890 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
Member # 15300
| Posted: 1:55 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so very sorry for your loss, LadyV. Both my parents and my darling more-like-a-mother Nana, as well. The feeling of being an orphan hits one pretty hard. Be kind to yourself for however long it takes to feel like yourself again. (((LadyV)))
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Posts: 7278 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Member # 25341
| Posted: 3:08 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
Oh no ((((Lady V))))
I'm so sorry for your loss, I am aching for you.
Be easy on yourself now, I hope you have a lot of irl support for you in your grief.
My deepest condolences.
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3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
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| Posted: 3:55 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
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| Posted: 4:02 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
One step at a time. One foot in front of the other, all those platitudes are all too true. For me, I found the pain was truly eased by time, and the painful memories were quickly(!) replaced by happy ones.
Allow yourself time to grieve. Do the crying you need to, without apologies. Take time for you and lean on whoever you can, IRL and here.
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Posts: 3649 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Member # 26970
| Posted: 4:47 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
..sorry LadyV... ((((hugs))))
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She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
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Posts: 4129 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Member # 19595
| Posted: 4:52 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I'm so sorry for your loss LadyV !
I have lost both parents and I will always miss them as you will your Dad.
ETA: Hold on to the precious memories. I have started to write down many of them for my DD40. My Dad has been gone 19 yrs and Mom for 7 yrs. When writing, the tears flow, I laugh out loud, and just feel so lucky I had the parents I did.
[This message edited by gma56 at 4:57 PM, July 27th (Saturday)]
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Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
Member # 20563
| Posted: 7:25 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
Lady V, hold on tight to Lord V and Baby V. I remember a lot of your story. Are your cousins an issue at ths point?
You were good to your father, do not doubt that.
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Posts: 6605 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Member # 13813
| Posted: 8:54 PM, July 27th (Saturday)|
I am so sorry for your loss. (((LadyV)))
Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.
Posts: 2432 | Registered: Mar 2007
Member # 17460
| Posted: 7:50 AM, July 28th (Sunday)|
I'm so sorry to hear this.
Another parentless person here. There really is nothing like that kind of void.
My heart breaks for you.
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Posts: 21068 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Member # 30989
| Posted: 8:22 PM, July 28th (Sunday)|
Oh, Lady V, I am so very sorry.
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
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Posts: 8841 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 21101
| Posted: 8:38 AM, July 29th (Monday)|
May you find peace and strength during this time.
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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Posts: 8703 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 6449
| Posted: 9:03 AM, July 29th (Monday)|
((((LadyV)))) My deepest sympathies in your loss. Both of my parents have gone on and I know the lost feeling that goes with their passing. Sending you good thoughts.
~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
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| Posted: 11:11 AM, July 29th (Monday)|
I'm so sorry for your loss..
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| Posted: 12:43 PM, July 29th (Monday)|
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| Posted: 10:09 PM, July 29th (Monday)|
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Posts: 15413 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
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| Posted: 10:51 PM, July 29th (Monday)|
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs to you. I know this can make you feel so alone in the world.
I lost my grandma in May .My grandparents practically raised me.My kids are the only blood family I have left . It's hard & scary at times .
Allow yourself to grieve. And remember no one can ever take away the memories you & your father made together .
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| Posted: 11:13 PM, July 29th (Monday)|
I am so so sorry for your loss. (((Lady V))
me: BW, now 52;
DD now 16 (adopted by me as single mom, so XWH was "Dad")
married: June, 2005, together since July, 2002
Divorced July, 2008 and he never looked back...
Posts: 1214 | Registered: Oct 2007
Member # 209
| Posted: 11:20 PM, July 29th (Monday)|
Lady V..I'm SO very sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of strength and hugs during this difficult time. Lean on us as much as you need to.
Two boys: 17 and 14
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Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Member # 34835
| Posted: 10:32 AM, July 30th (Tuesday)|
I'm so very sorry to hear this. My father died when I was in high school and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do.
I know it's even harder since he was your last parent.
Grieve all you want and as long as you want. Do not let anyone tell you how long it takes. It took me many years. It doesn't get better but you just learn it gets easier to handle you loss. Also, talk about it. You may not want to but talk. I didn't want to and finally I was forced. I hated every second of it but then I realized I was less emotional and I felt better.
Remember that he is always near. Even if you can't see him, you will know he's there. I am witness to that
Hugs and prayers to you!
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| Posted: 11:01 AM, July 30th (Tuesday)|
(((LadyV))) I'm so sorry.
FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson
Posts: 5973 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
Member # 33698
| Posted: 3:31 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)|
I'm so sorry.
BS (Me) 39
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
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Member # 16305
| Posted: 5:26 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)|
((Lady V)). Im sorry.
People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.
Posts: 8384 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 30217
| Posted: 11:12 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)|
I so understand how you feel. My father passed away on July 9th. We had his Celebration of Life at my house on our family farm on Saturday the 27th.
I still have my mom, but she has dementia and will be coming to live with me when I get her out of rehab on Friday. She's my mom....but not really my mom anymore, if you know what I mean.
I don't know if you have any siblings, (I'm an only child), but don't be afraid to ask for a shoulder to lean on right now.
The grief of losing a parent is huge. Just.....huge. My cousins and friends have really come through for me during this time. All I had to do was swallow my pride and ask for help. They were just waiting for a clue from me on how exactly they COULD help.
My heart goes out to you. Even though we know this is something that was coming, there is truly no way to prepare yourself for the unexpected meltdowns you find yourself having.
I broke down in tears in the grocery store today. I was shopping along, picked up a package of honey-stung wings (my dad's favorite), and then it hit me all over again that he isn't here to eat them. I had to leave the store.
I wish I was there to give you a big, huge, real-life hug. This stuff is so much harder than I thought it would be. I'm a strong woman, and this has brought me to my knees more times than I care to think about.
Blessings to you LadyV. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
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