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sunflowergirl30
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, July 28th (Sunday)

Just odd and reminds me of when he was cheating. They way he texted changed. Well the rare times he actually texted me. He used words he never had before and abbreviations.

He just texted he will be home "shortly"...that is soo not how my wh speaks.

Its just odd. Im so tired of this. Every time I decide to leave fear stops me or one of my DD has some breakdown.


My youngest started being bulimic the last time i started to attempt to leave. I backed off. Wh and I took her to the dr. That was a joke.

Wh puts on an act just long enough to get me to back peddle then he reverts back to his shitty self.

Just caught him in a lie. To him it was just a "lil" lie. And he confessed 5min. Later...well no shit he confessed because it was so obvious he had totally lied to me and looked me in the face repeatedly and tried to make me doubt myself. I wouldn't.

He has the nerve to me pissy and mad afterwards, as if it was reversed and I was the liar.

I know hes minimizing and deflecting. Im so sick of the mind fucking.

I dont even know him...i dont even like him. Its like he is going out of his way to be a asshole. Its just so bizarre and disturbing.



Together 20yrs married 17yrs
2 kids, now 18 & 15
Bw: now 37
Wh: now 36
Mow: now 49
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1049 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
sunflowergirl30
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Member # 28979
Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, July 28th (Sunday)

His selfishness is epic. Just epic.

Me, me,me....wow. I cant believe it. What did i ever see in this person. I guess i thought all those years ago it was "true love"

That he would change or id save him.

I saw his home life. How his parents were together, dependable. I thought he would be like his father. He is nothing like his dad.

Im really feeling so stupid. Just stupid


Together 20yrs married 17yrs
2 kids, now 18 & 15
Bw: now 37
Wh: now 36
Mow: now 49
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1049 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
myperfectlife
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Member # 39801
Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, July 28th (Sunday)

(((SFG)))

I hear you.
Maybe instead of leaving right away you can 180 him and start making a plan to leave in a certain amount of time.
Perhaps in the meantime you can get your children in counseling to deal with some of the issues going on. This could help make the transition smoother when you do leave.
You are still young and you have a lot of life ahead of you.
Don't let him steal anymore of that time.


I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13

Posts: 452 | Registered: Jul 2013
mysticpenguin
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Member # 38839
Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, July 28th (Sunday)

Bulimia stems from mental disorder. The seed in your DD was planted long ago and was destined to come to fruition at some point. Removing the event that sparked the bulimia will not resolve the disorder.

All this to say, if getting out of that home environment is ultimately the healthier choice, do it. Your DD will need counseling either way.

Hugs and strength to you.


Betrayed

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