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sunshine226
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, July 28th (Sunday)

So WH needed something from here (wont call it home anymore because he has been living with OW for over a year and a half now) so I put it in the back of the truck and he came by where DD and I are working for the summer

DD text him to see when he would be stopping by to get and and when he came, she went out to talk to him.

He asked why i didnt come out, she said i didnt want to, and before he left he told DD to tell me he loves me

And he gets into the car and drives away, on his way to the OW!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why does he do this, no wonder my DD hates him, says if he comes back, she is moving out. She didnt say anything to him but did pass the message on to me!!!

Oh and guess what, he's going bald She asked him to take off his ball cap and he did, how ironic that he is losing his hair over this, bad enough it turned grey at a young age but now he's losing it!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, July 28th (Sunday)

(((Sunshine226 & DD)))


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, July 28th (Sunday)

(((sunshine & DD)))

That's a heck of a mind game he is playing. Plus making your DD relay the message is all sorts of wrong. I'm sorry.




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sunshine226
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, July 28th (Sunday)

cant fiqure out if its a mind game or just that he is confused, messed up, f**ked up

He told me a few weeks ago that he wishes she would do what i did

When I discovered his affair, I told him to pack his bags and get the f**k out, and he did. But the next day, he was living with her.

So he wants her to do that, and that pisses me off, I have listened to his problems and troubles with her for over a year and he did nothing to end it with her, despite telling me he didnt love her, and wishes this didnt happen

And for quite a long time, I bought it, I believed him, but finally had enough and told him I dont want to have anything to do with him as long as he is with her.....that was March 22, he stayed away for almost 16 weeks, came in the day after I told him I was giving up on us, he stayed here but slept on the sofa and we hardly even talked.

I dont know where his head is at, and I have to wonder if he even knows, he's a coward and wants everyone else to do what he should be doing, which is end this bull

I'm letting go and trusting that whats meant to be will be and moving on with my life

I believe this will work out the way its suppose to, and no matter if its with us back together or on my own, i will be ok


Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2013
StepAside
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, July 28th (Sunday)

I believe this will work out the way its suppose to, and no matter if its with us back together or on my own, i will be ok

Bravo!


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