New Beginnings
User Topic: A first step
Member # 33934
Concerned  Posted: 11:05 PM, July 28th (Sunday)

Both in terms of starting my first thread here and with moving forward with my life. The first day of my new job is tomorrow. I am so scared and excited and anxious.

I spent most of today shopping for new clothes just to make sure that I had something to wear tomorrow. I'll probably just end up returning half of what I bought since I probably won't need it. It will be a big guess for what I'm really supposed to wear as it's business casual but I have no idea where on the spectrum it is supposed to fall as I haven't actually met any of my soon-to-be coworkers in person. I'm going for the business end and should be fine.

Oh my gosh oh my gosh OMG!!! I so need to chill out and get some sleep.

Me(35) XWW(36) DS(7) DD 11/16/11 EA(PA?) M 11y D 9/3/13

Don't make anyone a priority when you are only an option.

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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, July 28th (Sunday)

WhooHoo! You go girl !
Sending mojo for a wonderful first day at the new job !!

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
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Default  Posted: 3:44 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Good luck today. Come back and let us know how it went.



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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Good luck today! Please let us know how it goes.

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Posts: 3120 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Good luck!!

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Default  Posted: 7:37 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Good Luck!!!


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Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Good Luck! I hope it all goes well.

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Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Good luck!

me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17

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Posts: 4185 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, July 29th (Monday)

I hope today is going well for you! Keep us posted.

Me BS 54
Him WH 55
M 32 yrs - together 40 yrs
Kids 0
D-Day 12-18-11 (WH didn't want to R)
Divorced 6-21-12 Done!

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Posts: 239 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, July 29th (Monday)

Business casual is one of the hardest dress codes to interpret. For men as well as for women. I'm excited for you. I hope it goes well today.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5857 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
Member # 33934
Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, July 29th (Monday)

Ok, so I didn't sleep the best last night and woke up 20 minutes before my alarm but, my day went well. Spent the first half watching videos and filling out paperwork and the second half meeting lots of people and getting shown where things are.

I got the right level of dress as my new manager was dressed similarly except for differences in color. With all the people I met I got a good idea about the range of clothing that seems to be acceptable. I will have no problem targeting the middle and a few of my outfits will be better than that.

Then to top it off, when I got home, my first paycheck for the last three days of the month was already in my mailbox. That was a nice surprise and it will cover most of what I spent on clothes.

So, I'm coming from a background of working for small or very small companies. It is a huge culture shock for me to be coming into a place that has about 400 working in the building, a nice cafeteria, and an atm. I mean seriously, an atm in a private office building dedicated to one company.

Tomorrow should be nice as it is a short workday with a company picnic.

Me(35) XWW(36) DS(7) DD 11/16/11 EA(PA?) M 11y D 9/3/13

Don't make anyone a priority when you are only an option.

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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Yay! Such a positive way to begin!

You can call me NIK

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- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

All right, man!

I hope the picnic was fun. Things are definitely looking up!

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Posts: 17836 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, August 1st (Thursday)

Nice! Sounds like a great start

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Him: WH (62)
7/14/11 - Divorced

Posts: 1873 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: another world
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, August 1st (Thursday)

A picnic, great way to start off and get to know everyone.

Years ago I went from a tiny office to working for 200 lawyers with nearly as many support staff.

The cafeteria blew me away. And the firm had British origins so everything stopped at 3:00 pm on Fridays when the tea cart came around.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17492 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 33934
Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

So, just checking back in. The picnic was nice. Good food, bags ( ), and beer. My coworkers seem to be very nice people. I think that I will have the chance to get some great experience and help to make some improvements.

So yay for now.

Me(35) XWW(36) DS(7) DD 11/16/11 EA(PA?) M 11y D 9/3/13

Don't make anyone a priority when you are only an option.

Posts: 1148 | Registered: Nov 2011
Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, August 3rd (Saturday)

What a wonderful update. Great job and congrats!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

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