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phillygirl
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Member # 9078
Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Well I received the final decree in the mail Friday. I am officially divorced. I don't feel much of anything except relief.

I'm still a little angry? Disappointed? In myself for getting into this mess and allowing it to go on for so long. I should have left him before our first anniversary.

I now realize that I have a severe case of "nice" which allowed him to gaslight, mind fuck and hoover me back into that relationship again and again. I'm going to get working on protecting myself better.

But I'm just glad it's over and I never have to see or talk to him ever again. Woot!


Me - BW
Him - WH
Divorced - 7/2013

Posts: 825 | Registered: Dec 2005
Lalagirl
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Member # 14576
Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Wow. I see you joined in 2005 - this certainly has been one hell of a road for you.

I am so glad you are starting new. You deserve it. Lots of hugs and best of luck to you, philly!!


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 30 years 9/2/13
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS & 20 mo. GD & GB #4 due 8/15(DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

Posts: 5027 | Registered: May 2007
ButterflyGirl
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Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Congrats girl!!

I'm still a little angry? Disappointed? In myself for getting into this mess and allowing it to go on for so long. I should have left him before our first anniversary.

I think I have/will have a big case of this ^^^ too. I'm angry and disappointed in myself.. We were even friends first, and I knew he was a kind of a dick.. So I guess I'm mad at how he treated me, but I'm also mad I let it continue for so long, thinking I'm some angel from heaven that could help him..

Oh well, lesson learned, onward and upward!! Congrats again! Have a good one!


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2107 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
FaithFool
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Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Welcome to your new beginning.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17340 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
ninebark
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Member # 24534
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Yay! Happy Divorce Day! Go out and do something nice to celebrate! have a martini, eat a cake..lol. Ohh buy some shoes!


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
Ann124
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Member # 29289
Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Congrats Phillygirl!!

Wishing you good luck and happiness in your new beginnings!!!


Posts: 386 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Back Home ... And feeling Great!!
phillygirl
Member
Member # 9078
Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Wow. I see you joined in 2005 - this certainly has been one hell of a road for you.

Yeah I'm a really slow learner!

Thank you everybody - It was a long time coming - but I had a great weekend. Just me, kitteh, a bottle of wine, junk food, jammies and the DVR.

[This message edited by phillygirl at 9:11 AM, July 29th (Monday)]


Me - BW
Him - WH
Divorced - 7/2013

Posts: 825 | Registered: Dec 2005
SBB
Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, July 29th (Monday)

But I'm just glad it's over and I never have to see or talk to him ever again. Woot!

^^#EnvyOverHere


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5535 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
tryingagain74
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Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Congratulations! I'm happy for you. I was really thrilled to be free once and for all as well. Make sure that you do something to celebrate!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3575 | Registered: Oct 2011
heartbroken_kk
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Member # 22722
Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, July 29th (Monday)

Congratulations!

Nice is such a double-edged sword. It's stunning how much it can hurt us when we apply it to others.

Welcome to your NB!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1124 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
Pippy
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Member # 16482
Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, July 29th (Monday)

We all learn by our "mistakes". Good luck to you Philly.


I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.


Posts: 9587 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: East of the Rockies
stronger08
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Member # 16953
Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, July 29th (Monday)

Here's to your new beginning. When I got my decree in the mail it was like a 1000lb weight was lifted off my back. Well she was only 110 lbs. but she sure felt like a thousand LOL. Congrats

[This message edited by stronger08 at 12:21 PM, July 29th (Monday)]


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

Posts: 5613 | Registered: Nov 2007
devistatedmom
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Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, July 29th (Monday)

Long journey or not, you made it! Congrats having it over with.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5429 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Blackhair
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Member # 39451
Default  Posted: 12:25 AM, July 30th (Tuesday)

Great to hear, lot of people won't have the courage to take this step.


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, July 30th (Tuesday)

Congratulations!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9530 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
phillygirl
Member
Member # 9078
Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, July 30th (Tuesday)

Thank you everybody!!

The funny thing though is that the divorce really 100% confirmed for me what I had started to believe was true - that WXH never really gave a damn about me at. I was "of use" to him. And since I decided to divorce him, not so much.

I haven't heard a peep from him. No texts, emails, sad voicemails, nothing. He's gone NC with me. Although I don't want to hear from him, it kind of adds a little tiny sting at this point to realize that yes, I was used, and used until he couldn't use me anymore.

Blech...I vow to have a better picker next time!


Me - BW
Him - WH
Divorced - 7/2013

Posts: 825 | Registered: Dec 2005
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