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gma56
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Cool  Posted: 6:13 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)

Tomorrow marks one year since we went to court and signed the divorce papers.
All I can say is I'm still very RELIEVED !There's nothing I miss about my old life.
It's taken awhile to settle into my new life but I continue working on it.
I've started back into the workforce and trying to develope a retirement plan sucks.
I'm not dating and doubtful if I will anytime soon.
I'm OK and that is good enough.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
kiki1
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Member # 37184
Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)

(((gma)))

Great post!!

stay happy


Posts: 617 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: new york
torn2bits
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Member # 28376
Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)

Oh gma, I am probably going to sign my papers in October.

I am so happy to hear that you are doing well after all that has past.
A shining example for us all.
Keep on that momentum!


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
phmh
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Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)

Congratulations!

I can't wait to see how much more progress you've made a year from today.

What a wonderful, bright future you have ahead of you!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


Posts: 3404 | Registered: Dec 2011
FaithFool
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Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)

Yay!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17488 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)

oh, gma, you are way too good to be OK! I think you are fabulous!!

Congrats on the milestone.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5859 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Sad in AZ
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Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20281 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
peridot
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Member # 18334
Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Has it already been a year? Glad to hear everything is going good for you.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
nutmegkitty
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Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 5:56 AM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Good stuff!!!!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2601 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
cmego
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Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 6:05 AM, July 31st (Wednesday)


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4182 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
NaiveAgain
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Member # 20849
Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, July 31st (Wednesday)


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15288 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
newnormal
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Member # 21925
Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, July 31st (Wednesday)

If SI had a like button, this tread would blow up


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
Too_Trusting
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Member # 99
Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, July 31st (Wednesday)

I'm right there with ya, gma! Kudos to EVERY one of us here that takes the knife to the stomach, forges a new and better life, and emerges stronger for the experience.

Collectively and individually, we ROCK here at SI!!


"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

Posts: 2481 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: North Carolina
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Kudos to EVERY one of us here that takes the knife to the stomach, forges a new and better life, and emerges stronger for the experience.
Our lives are forever changed by the choices of someone we trusted and loved. We can choose to have a permanent self pity party or take our lives back.

Building a new life is a slow struggle for me but so thankful I have the opportunity to reach my goal of being happy and content with life again. I look back a year ago and I have made some progress but not near to where I want to end up.

I have a dream of where I want to be in three years and I'm on the right path to get there. I do wish it would happen quicker but the wait and hard work will pay off when I look up out my front door and see the beautiful mountains in the future.

I've learned to be patient with myself and count the blessings I do have now. How fast those blessings can be taken away.

Also I have found that there is more than one path to being happy with myself and life. My post divorce path isn't smooth it has many bumps, pits, and steep hills but I will get where I'm suppose to be.

I have so much love in me (I thought I wasn't capable of love again) and hope someone's heart will open up to be able to accept it. Only the future knows if that will happen, for now I'm OK.
Hugs to all of us going through, recovering, and starting over.
Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 6:52 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
FaithFool
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Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

How fast those blessings can be taken away.

I've become hyper-aware of this in the last five years and I do believe it enhances our appreciation of what we do have now.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17488 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Survivor3512
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Member # 37946
Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

That is so awesome! Congratulations!!


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
----------------------------------------------------------
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
ExposedNiblet
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Member # 30803
Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

YOU are awesome!


Divorced
Me ($39.95 plus S & H)
DS1(17), DS2(15)

Enjoying this chapter in my life.
Learning that being alone does not mean being lonely.
Discovering that where I've been is not as important as where I'm going.


Posts: 355 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Right Here, Canada
lostmommy
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Congratulations gma!


Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself

Posts: 485 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: NY
Newlease
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Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

You are doing just fine.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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LOSTinaBook
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

I'm glad to hear you're doing well, gma!


fBW-me, 26 (now 29)
xWH-he

Divorced.
S (H e) B E (L i e) V E (d).


Posts: 318 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: East Coast
cass
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Member # 24261
Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Tonight I will raise my glass to you gma


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


Posts: 4965 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
want a new life
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Member # 27286
Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

I am so happy for you! When I first joined and I was all over the place emotionally you always replied to my posts giving me helpful encouraging advice. I will never forget and am forever grateful. Hugs to you and prayers that your mountain view is sooner than later.


Me BS - 57
D 6/2010
It's been a long journey but I think I'm finally arriving at my happy place:)


Posts: 232 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: midwest
Take2
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Right there with you gma, the forest appears to be thinning, more blue sky is visible...just keep on keeping on!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4129 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Right there with you gma, the forest appears to be thinning, more blue sky is visible
It's such a good feeling when you start seeing the blue sky !

It gets partly cloudy at times but the blue shows through once again.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
TearInYourHand
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Member # 14193
Default  Posted: 6:51 AM, August 1st (Thursday)

What an uplifting update, gma! Very happy to hear what difference YOU'VE MADE happen in just a year's time.


35 - FBSO
“Integrity has no need of rules.”

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