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betraydtwice
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

So the OW works at the airport. Next week I have to fly out to meet H. I am debating.... There are 2 airports so I have an option.

Part of me wants to dress to the nines, (since last I seen her I have lost 15-20lbs, I have been tanning and I did hair differently). Anyway part of me wants to stroll past her like the insignificant piece of shit she is. Show her she is nothing to me and my life is "GREAT" (it's pretty good, not great but better).

The other side of me is unsure if I can pull it off..lol Since I haven't seen her since, I'm a little worried. I can go other airport.

Part of me wants to just face her and get it over with. I want to show her that I am stronger and that NOTHING her or H could do is enough to shake my confidence and my self-worth. Even if I fake it...lol

Opinions please, I would like some input.
Thanks in Advance.


Posts: 148 | Registered: Apr 2013
purplejacket4
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Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Dress and act however feels good to you. Watch. She probably won't even be there and have the day off!


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2212 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Bobbi_sue
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Member # 10347
Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

If it was me, I would dress to the nines and go with the option of strolling past her like the POS that she is.


Posts: 5744 | Registered: Apr 2006
betraydtwice
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Member # 38921
Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

I know her work schedule so I know when she will be there.
I feel like this will maybe show her that I have the upper hand. This woman is a shirttail relative, but has been pretty much excommunicated from the family now.

I want her to know that what she did is just a blip on OUR 23 years, but something that she will have to live with for a long time.

I just hope that I am strong enough to pull it off. I'm a little worried. I feel like I am ready in my head, but seeing her in person is entirely different. You know the head and heart thing.


Posts: 148 | Registered: Apr 2013
WeepingBuddhist
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Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

I wouldn't over do it--if you go all out, you might look like you are trying too hard. Be comfortable and confident.


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 563 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
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