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Emotionalhell
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Member # 39902
Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Please share any favorite mantras / sayings that help you continue to function & make it through the day.

Some of mine are ......

Everything is ok
Things are not as bad as they seem
God protects me
Things always work out in the long run
And the karma bus will hit them in the ass someday :) I can at least hope


Posts: 79 | Registered: Jul 2013
HeartInADustpan
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Member # 38341
Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

"One little thing."

If I can do one little thing for myself, my family and/or my spouse, no matter how small, I have accomplished much.


Just call me Heart. :)
Reconciling
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" ~Mark Twain

Posts: 375 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
Spelljean
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Member # 35624
Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Let go. Let God.

Breathe.

I can have a Big Mac tonight if I want.

I still have the sky


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
noescape
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Member # 34888
Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

don't engage (with crazy)
hope kills action
actions not words
its darkest before the dawn
focus on the INcome not the OUTcome

Posts: 739 | Registered: Feb 2012
brkn_heartd
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Member # 30396
Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

God will never give you more than you can handle.


Me-50 BS
Him 57-WS
Married 30 yrs, together 33
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1441 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
m334455
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Member # 26893
Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Baby steps.


BW 38, 5 kids
Dday Dec. 2009

Posts: 4034 | Registered: Dec 2009
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Positive self talk is SOOOO important!

Things I say to myself:

Breathe

You can do this

It's going to be ok


For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot

Posts: 14709 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Rainbows
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Member # 39362
Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

"I am sustained by the love of God."


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 362 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
ShatteredPagan
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Member # 35475
Default  Posted: 5:15 AM, August 1st (Thursday)

"Today is good"


WS (him) 48
BS (me) 39
Together since 5/13/2005
Married 10/13/2012
No kids together. 3 total between us (17, 15, 13)
Affair started: 12/19/2011
Sobriety birthday: 1/11/2012
D-day: 2/17/2012
R-day: 3/1/2012
"The next time you think you a

Posts: 52 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Leicester, North Carolina
struggling16
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Member # 33202
Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, August 1st (Thursday)

"I know and it has hurt me very much but I have felt it and now I am letting it pass."

Posts: 678 | Registered: Aug 2011
Phoenix9572
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Member # 39987
Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, August 1st (Thursday)

"Everyday is a choice"


Me - 40
WH - 42
Married 18 years
kids - 14, 12
DD - May 13, 2013
DD2 - Aug 4, 2013
DD3 - Aug 27, 2013
Status - Legally separated; really wanted R but don't think that is possible anymore

Posts: 103 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Southern Indiana
letitout
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Member # 38288
Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, August 1st (Thursday)

I can have a Big Mac tonight if I want


BW 55, WH 64
2 years of prostitutes.

Posts: 277 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: California
starstruck
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Member # 29547
Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, August 1st (Thursday)

Positive self talk is helping me thrive not just survive.

"Breathe"

"Everyday I make the choice to..."

"I am important"


DDay 7/29/2010
Am hoping to reconcile!! Am I crazy or what?
If we all did the things we are capable of doing we would literally astound ourselves-Thomas Edison

Posts: 321 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Pa
3Xthefool
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Member # 40113
Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

My self talk is correlated with my religious faith.

Here is what I tell myself when my feelings start to overpower me (I think it is a universal sentiment that rings true no matter what your religious background may be):

Right now I am suffering....

Suffering leads to perseverance....

Perseverance leads to character......

Character leads to Hope & Faith.

The suffering I'm going through now teaches me to endure, which in turn makes me a better person, which inherently strengthens my faith in God, and that the future he has in store for me will eclipse anything that I am going through now.


Posts: 59 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New York City
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