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FieldsOfLavender
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Member # 39154
Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

This was the subject header from my stbx while he is visiting his family with our child. He's visiting his father because he is in bad health. I thought he was going to tell me that his father passed away. Instead, he said that he has already shared his news with his father, step mother, sisters and our child and that he and his whore will be starting a new life.

He announced that our child will be having a half brother or sister.

I am the last to know.


Posts: 190 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Oh, honey.
(((((((fields)))))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25071 | Registered: Aug 2011
ArkLaMiss
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Member # 14918
Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

Lav, honey, she's got a liar and a known cheater. There's also an open position for a new mistress now. You, however, will move on to bigger and better things. Hugs. The glitter will soon rub off on their fantasy. Trust me!


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

Posts: 1178 | Registered: Jun 2007
FieldsOfLavender
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Member # 39154
Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

I've been unemployed and my unemployment will run out SOON. I signed the separation agreement and signed away my alimony. I was too trusting.

Now what? Will the judge be empathetic to my unemployed position and revisit the agreement at divorce?


Posts: 190 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
FieldsOfLavender
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Member # 39154
Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, August 1st (Thursday)

This news hits me on several levels. I didn't expect this level of low from him. Naive of me at my age and his betrayal.

I wanted a 2nd child and STBX gave me a laundry list of why we couldn't:
1. too expensive
2. world is overpopulated
3. babies create more pollution
4. baby will be born "retarded" (I was around 40), but his whore will be 40 when she gives birth


Posts: 190 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
puzzlepieces
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Member # 37829
Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

((hugs))
I can't imagine how this must feel. I am sure that my WH will be fathering a child with his OW or another unsuspecting woman. He's introducing the OW to his family next week! He's in denial that he had the affair so he tells everyone he started dating her after we split up. :-) But like Ark says, as much as it hurts, just remember you are SO MUCH BETTER OFF without him and are moving on to better things. And you wouldn't want to be her in a million years.


Me = BS, 38
WH, 39
2 kids under 4
D-Day1: 11/17/12
False R: 1/2013 - 3/2013
D-Day2: 3/2/13 - back with same OW; admits to ONS 3 years prior (different OW)
3/13 - file for D
D-Day3: 7/16/2013 - Learn of 3rd PA

Healing by the day


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