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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

It was DDs 16th birthday today and I was devastated to not be with her. This is the first time I am not with my child in all these years. No special dinner today, no decorated birthday table, no nice cake, no togetherness.

Last night SO stayed at my place. And at some point in the evening I just lost it thinking about DD16 and all the loss we have experienced. I excused myself and went to the bedroom and just sat on the floor and sobbed.

He eventually knocked on the door and asked if he could come in. I told him yes. He sat on the floor next to me and hugged me. I just started to sob more. He just sat there and held me tight. I cried myself to sleep. At some point I felt that he lifted me on the bed and covered me. I heard him leave and then he came back with a warm washcloths, washed my face, kissed me and went to sleep on the couch.

I am love with this man. With all the misery, I felt safe and loved like I never felt in my marriage.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1232 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

Oh my goodness. I am so sorry for your pain, but blown away by his response.

I am so happy you found such a wonderful man.

[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 9:14 PM, August 1st (Thursday)]


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

That is touching in so many ways.

(((hugs)))


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5611 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

Wow. What a beautiful picture of what a man should be.

(((fraeuken)))


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2501 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

(((Fraeuken)))


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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fraeuken
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Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 12:16 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Talked to my girl today and feeling much better.

It was the gesture of washing my face which certainly was not a pretty sight that really made me stop and think. No man has ever done that for me. It was such a simple gesture but it was so very powerful to me.

Tonight we met up at church for a brief prayer meeting and be offered up a very eloquent, heart felt prayer which I know was partially directed at me. After he took me out to dinner and we just talked about our day and books and movies.

I have always given more than I received in my relationships. It is very difficult for me to accept his kindness at times. I feel like I got tenfold back what I lost with the end of my marriage.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1232 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Bebba1171
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Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

wow - what an impressive man. Feel pretty inadequate compared to him!

Happy for you Frau.

Currently in San Diego with my son visiting my little sister and playing a lot of golf.

Head back to the sticks of Kentucky tomorrow.

You live in an awesome state!


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 726 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: USA
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 2:30 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Wow that is so nice.

Hope you are feeling better today.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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Sissi12
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Default  Posted: 2:36 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

So nice- you deserve it. Never stop believing.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

(((Fraeuken)))

He sounds like a wonderful person.


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