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Lighthouse Heart
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Sad  Posted: 10:40 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

I recently made a reapperance in JFO (new now ex S/O not old exWH...just to clarify)have lurked since my first go round here... I don't know how to deal with this...so here I am seeking collective SI wisdom.

I had a growth removed from the small of my back last week. My Doctor was sure it was nothing to be worried about. She took a good margin and went to 1.5 mm. 8 stitches to close me up.

Today I got the call, I wasn't expecting results until I went for the stitches out next Wednesday.

Malignant Melanoma.

She's referring me immediatly to a plastic surgeon for a larger excise and to the Cancer Clinic. I should have appointments next week at both.

Holy hell I'm scared. This is fast. Has anyone been through this? What should I be asking, expecting?


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:09 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

((( Lighthouse )))


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6528 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

((((lighthouse))))

sending SI mojo


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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

Do some research on the different stages. Prognosis and treatment are based on depth of the cancer and on if any lymph nodes have been affected.

Sending you positive mojo and offering up prayers.

[This message edited by purplejacket4 at 11:20 PM, August 1st (Thursday)]


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Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
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Posts: 2242 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
HopeFloats2272
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Default  Posted: 11:28 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

(((LighthouseHeart)))

I am so sorry about your diagnosis!! I don't have much advice as I haven't had melanoma but I have had basal cell carcinoma. It runs in the family. My dad had malignant melanoma a few years ago and fortunately it hadn't spread to the lymph nodes yet.

The Internet is a blessing (ie: SI) and a curse. There is so much unfiltered information out there to freak you out but I can't stop myself from "researching" my ailments before my Dr. appointments. Take advice and everything you read with a grain of salt.

I will say that getting a second opinion is always a good idea. Your Dr. may refer you to a specialist but that doesn't mean you can't get another opinion from a Dr. of your choice.

I'll be thinking of you!! Keep us posted!


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Married 13yrs, 2 Sweet Boys-5 & 9
DD#1: 1/10/12- 6mo EA
DD#2: 8/23/12-revealed 1PA, 2ONS in 2010 and 1EA/PA in 2004
DD#3: 9/10/12- ONS w/friend in 2010
Lots of other crap and TT - basically I was married to a guy that forgot he was

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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 12:01 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Thank you guys - it's nice to see some response..hugs always welcome :)

I wrote things down as she was talking to me but now I'm not sure what they say lol...

The next excise will go wider and deeper to ensure that all the growth was removed by her the first time.

The referal to the plastic surgeon is because it's a deeper level of the skin layers...I think she said to 6mm and something about Breslo Depth? Because the excise will be much larger it needs a "Z" incision to make closing it back up and healing better?

The referal to the Cancer Clinic is for tracking and follow up.

She said that in the small of the back you're not dealing with lymph glands so not a concern. There was no sign of invasion to blood vessels (a good thing?)

The quickness she said is that IF there was any small bit still there the area has been disturbed and could spread and grow.

I've been with this Doctor for 35 years, I was 12 and she was just starting her practice, I do not question her at all nor the collegues she has ever refered me to for something - her care is top notch. Hell, I have her home number and she will do a house call still for me if needed.

I will ask her on Wednesday about staging..and ya I've already made the mistake of google thy ailment I closed it out and am not going to make myself crazy...so I came here instead lol

It's still scary. Heck I watch the Big C ya know?


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Default  Posted: 12:11 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

((((((lighthouse)))))))


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Default  Posted: 12:16 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

((((LighthouseHeart))))


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 4:51 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

(((((Lighthouse)))))


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Default  Posted: 5:34 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

(((((Lighthouse)))))


Take up your space (and do it well).

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Lighthouse, my h had a deep basal cell, required the Z incision. That just refers to how they cut ( in a z shape vs straight line)to keep scarring to a minimum in a place that does not typically have a lot of excess fat or skin (unlike most of me )

Hugs to you and sending prayers for early stage.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

((((((Lighthouse)))))))

I'm keeping you in my prayers.


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SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

(((((Lighthouse)))))
Sending you good thoughts.
My best friend had that at the top of the center of her back. Excision and follow-up treatment took care of it. It took awhile to heal, because they removed lots of tissue, and that actually troubled her the most.
She has follow-up checks every six months for awhile, then it dropped to once a year, and after ten years went to checks every 18 months.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

((((lighthouse))))

Sending mojo, strength, and prayers.


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amitheow
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

My friend at work just had that. They dug REAL deep in her arm which she said was not pleasant and then they called and said they got all of it - and it was malignant melanoma too.

I think they are just going to watch her lymphnodes and stuff for the next six months.

I also had a friend who had it on her ankle. They went all the way down to the bone on her, twice .. and got it all. She's been fine for a few years now.

If they catch it fairly fast, then it's all good.


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Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

I had one removed by a plastic surgeon in 1998. They went pretty deep (I had soreness for nearly a month), but no reoccurrence. If they catch it early, they can usually get all of it.

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

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StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

Hugs to you!

A bit of practical advice from a mom who's spent many years dealing with cancer centers, etc. for her kid:

1. Do you have a friend who can go with you to appts to take notes and ask questions? That way you do not have to worry about being focused. (That's my job in our family; FWH is the "I'm too distraught about our kid to be focused" one).
2. Follow up by email with your doc and with any specialists.
3. If there is a team approach at the plastic surgeon or (more likely) the cancer center, get to know the top nurse on your team, or the case manager. They will be very helpful. Even the most helpful and nice doctor is usually not as quick and proactive as the nurse or case manager.

My thoughts are with you, LighthouseHeart!


DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

So sorry to hear this news.

Covering you in prayer.

(((LHH)))

AJ's MOM


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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

Sending good thoughts to you


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

(((Lighthouse)))

Sending you healing thoughts and MOJO!


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Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
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R - he finally came home
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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

((((Lighthouse)))) I am SO SO SO glad you have a diligent doctor. It makes such a difference.

Millions of hugs and prayers.


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WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
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Eranda
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

I just had it removed from my tongue. I had a biopsy that was apparently very thorough because he got it all on the first shot. Thank God. But if he hadn't, they would have done a second surgery like yours.

As long as it's been definitively removed, you will likely just have to go for a lot of follow-up checks. I have to go every three months for the next three years, then every six months for two years after that.

It's scary as hell, I know- but catching it early and treating it aggressively will make all the difference. Try to breath, so everything your doctors tell you, and ask a million questions.

oh... and DO NOT start looking it up on the internet. What you need to know is information about YOUR cancer in YOUR situation with YOUR treatment. Nothing else is relevant. Everything you can find online will turn you into a worried wreck.

(((hugs)))


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AgainandAgain
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

((((((LIghthouse))))))

I have no idea what you are going through but we are all here for you. I agree with Eranda-don't google or look anything up. I've done that in the past and was convinced my situation was just as bad as the horror stories.

You'll be in my prayers.


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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

(((Lighthouse Heart)))
Thoughts and prayers for you.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

Thank you everyone. It's always encouraging that no matter the problem, the frequency of posts (or lack of in my case) or the length of being here...there's always someone around SI to offer a hug, a personal view or advice. You may not ever know what you post does for someone...I'm telling you it makes a difference. I thank you and appreciate your responses.

The surgeons office called today - there will be no preconsult visit. I'm booked for surgery on the 14th and the doctor will speak with me before he does the excise.

I'll have more info from my GP on Wednesday when I see her in person. Until then I'm staying busy and trying not to think about it...tonight I'm having a bottle of Shiraz called "Screw It" just because.

Thanks again.


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)

Sending you mojo for both good news and to resist the urge to search on the internet!

(((Lighthouse)))


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 1:59 AM, August 4th (Sunday)

((( Lighthouse )))


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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, August 4th (Sunday)

(((Lighthouse)))


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Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, August 4th (Sunday)

Shoot, I went to the plastic surgeon for a "consult" and after looking at it said, "You have a problem with me doing this now?" So we got it all done in about 40 minutes.

GDM had one on his scalp--much more painful and involve than the one on my hip.

You will be fine.

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, August 4th (Sunday)

(((Lighthouse)))


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DragnHeart
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, August 5th (Monday)

(((LighthouseHeart)))

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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, August 7th (Wednesday)

Thanks again for the thoughts. Met with my brother and his wife on the weekend and filled them in. I've decided not to say anything to my father at this point. He's 93 and his wife is having a hip replacement next week...so his rock is going to be needing his full attention. We lost my brother 3 years ago to Pancreatic Cancer and my mother 12 years ago...unitl I know more I just can't add to this.

I'm in a holding pattern at the moment. My procedure scheduled for the 14th has been cancelled until they can find me another surgeon. Apparently the Oncologist from the Cancer Clinic (who I've not met or heard from) has requested a Sentinal Node Biopsy to be also conducted at the same time as my larger excise and the Plastic Surgeon I was booked with can't do that.

I gather they inject a dye in the area they took the tumor from(yeah fuck me - they are now referring to it as a tumor)and follow as it drains to the nearest lymph node...then they remove that and test it to see if cancer cells are present?

I don't know if this is routine anymore or what...it's just getting me a bit more anxious though.

So I hurry up and wait now.


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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Default  Posted: 12:41 AM, August 7th (Wednesday)

(((lighthouse)))

Sending along mojo and prayers.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


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Default  Posted: 12:59 AM, August 7th (Wednesday)

((((lighthouse))))

sending much prayers and strength.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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lostworld
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, August 7th (Wednesday)

My 22 year old son was diagnosed with early stage III melanoma 2 years ago. I'm happy to help in any way I can.


Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married 30 yrs. w/ 2 grown kids
Dday 1: Very early 2007
Dday 2: Mid 2008 (same MOW, 14 month false R)
R'd
The affair was the aberration, not the marriage or the man.

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sportsfan
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, August 7th (Wednesday)

(((Lighthouse)))

I'm thinking good thoughts for you ... hang in there.


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brokenpromise
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, August 29th (Thursday)

Hi Lighthouse

I hope you are doing ok. It is a very scary diagnosis. I was diagnosed with Acral Lentiginous Melanoma this past April. My lesion was located on my left little toe.

Yes - little toe. It can happen I had my toe amputated and thankfully, was diagnosed with a low Stage 1A.

Good resources for me were AIM at Melanoma, Melanoma International Foundation, and Melanoma Prayer Center.

I cannot stress enough to get anything that strikes you as weird or "funny" checked out by a dermatologist. Don't wait. The deeper the growth, the more dangerous the melanoma lesion can be. When in doubt, cut it out. Wear sunscreen, make sure your kids are protected, don't forget feet and toes, don't use tanning beds.

Hope you will let us know how you are doing.
Sending healing thoughts. BP


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M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
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M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
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BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

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BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

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brokenpromise
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, August 29th (Thursday)

Hi Lighthouse

I hope you are doing ok. It is a very scary diagnosis. I was diagnosed with Acral Lentiginous Melanoma on my foot.

Yes - foot. It can happen I thankfully was diagnosed with a low Stage 1A.

Good resources for me were AIM at Melanoma, Melanoma International Foundation, and Melanoma Prayer Center.

I cannot stress enough to get anything that strikes you as weird or "funny" checked out by a dermatologist. Don't wait. The deeper the growth, the more dangerous the melanoma lesion can be. When in doubt, cut it out. Wear sunscreen, make sure your kids are protected, don't forget feet and toes, don't use tanning beds.

Hope you will let us know how you are doing.
Sending healing thoughts. BP

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BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

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BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, August 29th (Thursday)

(((Lighthouse)))


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, September 27th (Friday)

Well I have an update and it's not a super happy one.

I had been booked with a new surgeon and met with him back in mid - August. In addition to explaining the procedure and healing process he ordered further tests to be done prior to surgery so they could rule things out.

First up was blood work to make sure liver and kidney function was good. All fine there - nothing out of the ordinary. That was taken care of fairly quickly back in August.

Next up was a CT scan of the abdominal and chest area. The results from that came back on Tuesday of this week...not good. The contrast used in the CT indicates there is activity in lymph nodes in the abdomen near the pancreas. It's peri pancreatic not on the pancreas.

My surgery for Oct 1 has been cancelled - they feel the radioactive stuff would certainly drain to the area that showed in the CT and they are not prepared do deal with that in that particular surgical procedure.

So I've had further blood tests and going for abdominal ultrasound on Monday and will have a long needle abdominal biopsy done later in the week. They will take about 8 core node samples and type what this is.

Nothing is certain, I'm scared and tomorrow my brother and I are driving to see my dad and his wife to tell them what has transpired. They were aware I had something removed back in July and thought as I did back then that it would all be fine - i opted to not say anything as i didnt want to worry them and it was a matter of just ensuring it was all gone and not spread.

As things have changed, there appears to be spread and I need support and can't tell others without my father knowing everything...it has to be done.

It will be fine, I will be fine. I choose to fight and hope.

All prayers and good thoughts, mojo whatever you got are gladly accepted.

Thank you :)


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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Default  Posted: 12:51 AM, September 28th (Saturday)

Lighthouse,
I'm so sorry to hear this. I will be thinking of you and praying for good news from your tests this week. Sending mucho mojo, strength and healing thoughts your way. Take care.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, September 28th (Saturday)

((((((LightHouse))))))


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, September 28th (Saturday)

(((LightHouse)))

Sending you strength, good thoughts, prayers, and mojo. I'm keeping you in my thoughts.


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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, September 28th (Saturday)

((((Lighthouse))))


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

Sending it all your way, honey. (((((lighthouse)))))


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"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

Praying for you.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2242 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

(((Lighthouse)))

Saying prayers for you.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

Prayers, MOJO and good thoughts.
(((LIghthouse)))

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

(((Lighthouse)))

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jjsr
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

Sending you good thoughts


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

Lighthouse
Senfing you kick "C" butt mojo!
Prayers doll.


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, September 29th (Sunday)

(((Lighthouse)))
Sending positive thoughts and healing prayers....


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, September 29th (Sunday)

Sending you thoughts and strength. I'm so sorry.


Me: 37

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Random thoughts
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

Prayers to you Lighthouse.


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Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW

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heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

Prayers and good thoughts to you.


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Remarried.


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vivere
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

Good luck with your Ultrasound, Lighthouse.

I'm glad you chose to speak with all of your family. Everyone supports in their own unique way.

You're right - nothing is certain. The waiting time can be just awful. Surround yourself with love.

I am thinking of you. ((Lighthouse))


You are responsible for your own happiness :)

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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, September 30th (Monday)

Sending healing MOJO, and strength your way.

((((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

(((Lighthouse)))

Prayers and posititve thoughts to you and your loved ones. I hope you heal quickly and kick cancers butt!!

sunandmoon


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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

((Lighthouse))

Sending healing mojo your way sweetie! You are not alone! We are all here for you!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:34 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

Sending you stregth. I have been where you are at. they cut thru all my tendons to the bone to get it all out of my leg. So far I have been good that was about 9 years ago. I need to go back and get checked. Mine looked like a freckle so I get wired when I see a strange one.
You will be sore but it is all so worth it. Many prayers to you.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"


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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

Continued prayers, Lighthouse.

*hugs* too.


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

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____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)

Thank you for continued hugs, prayers and good thoughts.

The trip to see my father and his wife went surprisingly well considering.

Of course they are concerned, but it's a big relief for me that they now know and will continue to be updated as I move forward in whatever process is coming my way. It means that I can now widen my support group and not feel limited in who I can tell. It takes an army to fight and I'm gathering my troops.

I had an ultrasound yesterday so the readioligist surgeon knows what he's dealing with next week. They have booked both a CT and ultrasound for the abdominal biopsies now scheduled for next Wednesday - I guess they will decide which gives them a better image to guide them to the area.

More blood work for the vampires before then...why don't they listen when I tell them to go for the left arm as the viens are better? lol

I've got my morning mantra as my new sig line and I have a friend who's self appointed posiiton on my team is to make me laugh everyday.

Some of my co-workers gathered in my office yesterday and gave me a cozy fleece jacket - for when I feel cold, alone and need a hug and they are not with me...the also gave me a cactus - for when the non supportive, unempathetic folks invaded my space...I'm to politely tell them they are not being helpful and that I'd rather hug my cactus I giggle looking at it and am just waiting to use the line lol.

I'm finding something in every day for now.


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)

(((LH)))

I LOVE the cactus idea! It sounds like you have a great attitude and a wonderful support system! Sending healing mojo your way!


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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)

Sending love and strength to you Lighthouse Heart



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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willow60
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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)

((((Lighthouse,))))

Lots of prayers, strength and mojo going out to you.


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)

(((Lighthouse Heart))))

Sending you lots of light.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)

(((((light)))))

You have an incredibly positive attitude and have such strength. I'm glad you have a lot of supportive people in your life to help you navigate through this hurdle. we are all pulling for you. Sending lots of hugs, strength and positive vibes.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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Default  Posted: 12:21 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday)

More hugs and strength, LH. Your positive attitude is one of your most valuable assets.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday)

(((LH)))

You are going into this with the best attitude you can have, and sister it will make a difference.

You are gathering your army, you have that big strong weapon at the ready, humor, and you have a sense of peace knowing that you have told your dad.

I pray you have better knews, and that you continue to have strength and courage.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, October 4th (Friday)

Well, I made it through the week! lol No small feat as work was busy and really didn't have time to think about things too much.

My laugh a day has been doing just that. Haven't had to hug the cactus yet which is very good news.

Relaxing with a glass or two of red later and then tomorrow picking up my kitty - who I haven't seen since I moved back in August. She's coming to live with her mama

Hopefully the sun is out this weekend and I can get out for some picture taking too.

Thanks everyone - hope you enjoy your weekend.


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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positively4thst
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

Hi Lighthouse!

Glad to hear you are keeping a positive attitude! Please keep us updated, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Hope you got out to enjoy the beautiful weather and snap some photos!


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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

Abdominal biopsy was this morning - quick and painless. A bit of tenderness now - like I did crunches on one side only lol.

Very surprised at the technique - they went through the "structures" in the way (liver and pancreas) to get to the nodes for the biospy They used ultrasound to guide and monitored a couple of times with the CT.

Only light sedation and local for the insertion site. I was out by 9 and released at 10...and getting a mocha by 10:05 lol - lord I missed my coffee in the morning.

Having my kitty back has been wonderful She was a bit scared the first afternoon but that evening she remembered our old bedtime routine and was her usual sucky self for the pets and chin scratches. She's been getting more playful and less skitterish each day.

A bit of a wait now for results but lots to keep me busy. Plenty of family and folks sending support and love - it's all felt.

Thank you


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

(((LH)))

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

lots of prayers for you!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

((Hugs)) keep us updated!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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NWfleur
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Default  Posted: 3:05 AM, October 12th (Saturday)

(((Lighthouse)))

My dad had one on his back removed years ago. He caught it early so they were able to remove it with clean margins and no spreading.
My cousin had one on her hip in her early 30's...which she let go for a long time unfortunately and she's had to go through various treatments over the years. The key with melanoma is early detection which is sounds like is the case for you.
Hope you are surrounding yourself with lots of love and support...


Me BS (39)
Him WS (36)
2 DS
M: 9 years (together 13)
DD: 4/10/2012
(Separated since 12/11...affair began ??!!)

Divorced!!!


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hill
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

(((Lighthouse)))

I just popped by for my monthly lurking and saw this thread- I will be thinking of you. I know you must be getting the results from the last procedure back soon.

(((more hugs)))


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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, October 21st (Monday)

Well lets hope this is the last bad news update and that from here on out things go as they should...

Met with GP today for the results of abdominal biopsy. Already had an appointment booked with the Oncologist for afterwards so I had an inkling it was not all clear.

The biopsy returned as matastic malignant melanoma. Not what I'd hoped but there you go...and there is a plan.

Full CT to ensure no head or pelvic spread. Cancer class so I know what to expect, seeing a dermatologist as I have psoriasis and we need to work in conjunction with him as one of the drug therapys will involve auto immune stuff and psorisis is immune system related and could throw it for a loop...and the biggie is chemo will start as soon as next week.

Because there was no CT scan done back in July when this thing was removed, they don't know how agressive this tumour in the belly is and because it is lymph nodes and the body's superhighway he's hitting hard and fast.

It's not going to be easy I don't think. Considering I'm not sick and have no symptoms I'm hopefull this is slow and early times and all will be well.

If I can handle infidelity twice...beating cancer should be a piece of cake ...gawd now I want cake lol

I will update as stuff happens and if I get in a funk.

Thank you for being here and keeping me in your prayers.


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, October 21st (Monday)

((((((((lighthouse)))))))) You have such a great attitude, honey. That will serve you well in this battle.

Holding you in my thoughts.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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positively4thst
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, October 21st (Monday)

Hi Lighthouse!

Thanks for the update. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I want to make you a cake!! What is your favorite?!


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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 6:43 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

Lighthouse, been keeping you in my prayers and will continue to do so for easy chemo, full recovery and cake!


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

(((Lighthouse)))

Eat your cake now. Enjoy it. I have a feeling after next week, food may a bit of challenge some days.

Stay strong. Others have pushed through this, and you will too.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

(((lighthouse)))

Eat the cake!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

(((lighthouse)))


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

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hill
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

(((Lighthouse)))

I'm so sorry to hear this news. Please know we're here for you whenever you need us. I'm thinking of you.

(((more hugs)))


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lostworld
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

Just when you know you're stronger than you think, something in life says, "prove it." And you will. Know that I'm still thinking of and praying for you. (((Lighthouse Heart)))


Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married 30 yrs. w/ 2 grown kids
Dday 1: Very early 2007
Dday 2: Mid 2008 (same MOW, 14 month false R)
R'd
The affair was the aberration, not the marriage or the man.

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Rollercoaster
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Default  Posted: 1:24 AM, October 24th (Thursday)

Lighthouse Heart my prayers are with you.


Me BS 55, WS 55
Reconciled

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HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 2:31 AM, October 24th (Thursday)

(((Lighthouse))) Sending healing wishes.

I had a clark level 3 malignant melanoma 29 years ago. They removed much of the surrounding tissues and all the lymph nodes in that area, but I'm still kicking. I know they have come a long way since my surgery. Like you, I was very frightened, but it sounds like you're in good hands.


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


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summerain
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Default  Posted: 5:49 AM, October 24th (Thursday)

eat lots of cake and things you enjoy while you can

It sounds like you are holding up okay all things considering.


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, October 24th (Thursday)

(((lighthouse)))

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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, October 24th (Thursday)

Sending strength and peace.

NL


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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Well I'm still waiting on a full staging CT scan. Had a bone scan on Friday. They've given me a date 4 weeks out for the CT and I'm not happy about it. You don't tell someone if your not agressive with the treatment they might not be here in six months and then wait two or three before anything starts! Waiting on call back from oncologist himself - the office was not aware of the date I was given for CT.
In the meantime I have my fuck cancer hair...hot pink streaks lol/ it's either going to grow out or fall out when the chemo comes lol.

Good thing I didn't start eating the cake yet. I'd be gaining weight and that's not the aim here.

Trying to stay "up"...looking into visualization techniques...they say it's helpful during chemo to "see" the bad cells being destroyed.

Will update again soon. :)


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Love the "Fuck Cancer" hair idea. Thank you for updating us, honey. You've been in my thoughts. (((((((lighthouse))))))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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PricklePatch
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Sending good thoughts, mil had melanoma twice. First time 37 years before 2nd occurrence which involved lymph node died 9 years later of a stroke.


BS
Fwh
sorry post on my tablet

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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 2:09 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Holding you in the *LIGHT* and picturing the demise of the nasty cells...


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Hi, lighthouse.

What's the word on that full CT? Do you know the name of the chemo they'll use?

Sending cancer fighting mojo to you!!

Go ahead and have as much cake as you want and don't worry about weight gain. Chemo is really rough, so you may not feel like eating and you WILL lose weight, regardless of whether you're eating or not. If you're close to your ideal weight, I would suggest trying to put on a few pounds to make it easier on your body.


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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, November 14th (Thursday)

Finally been booked for my first visit to the chemo clinic next Thursday. It's just my mapping consult so I can meet the team and find out the steps but it's a start. I've been feeling a bit stuck with no treatment underway yet.
Thanks everyone for your continued good thoughts and prayers.


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, November 15th (Friday)

I'm glad that things are starting to move Lighthouse. You have my thoughts.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, November 22nd (Friday)

First visit to the Chemo Clinic done and some greast news!

The bone scan I had came back clear - so no spread there. My full CT scan is set for Wednesday - they are specificly ensuring that there is no spread to pelvic area or head. Chest is clear and abdominal organs clear so no thoughts that it would skip whats close and travel to beyond.

Chemo Teaching class on Tuesday and then results of CT and setting chemo schedule with my oncologist at the clinic on Thursday.

Happy to be finally getting to the fight and focused on my healing.


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, November 22nd (Friday)

That's a wonderful update, Lighthouse. Onward and upward!

(((Lighthouse Heart)))


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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Cally60
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Default  Posted: 1:51 AM, November 24th (Sunday)

I was so glad to read this update, Lighthouse heart!

Best wishes for your CT scan on Wednesday.

[This message edited by Cally60 at 1:06 AM, November 25th (Monday)]


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, November 24th (Sunday)

Thank you for the update. That's wonderful news on the bone scan. Please let us know how Thursday goes. Sending strength and keeping you in my thoughts.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, November 24th (Sunday)

Yay for great news! You continue to be in my thoughts, lighthouse.


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"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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