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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

We quit smoking!!

In those 8 years, I have with no exceptions, pulled out $200.00 less cash every week out of our payroll deposits. That's what we were spending on cigarettes each week when we quit.

$200.00 X 52(weeks)= $10,400.00 a year.

$10,400.00 X 8 (years) = $83,200.00.

That's how much money we have saved by not smoking!! We have done some extraordinary things with that money over the years and there is no better feeling than knowing we paid cash AND our health has benefitted from it

I still love the smell of cigarette smoke and will practically sit in our smoking friends lap when they light up but I couldn't be prouder of us

[This message edited by SI Staff at 10:32 AM, August 2nd (Friday)]


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My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Good job!!!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

So amazing. Congratulations!!!


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WhiteWolfWinning
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Congratulations! That is truly amazing!
Wolf


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

That's wonderful!


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Congratulations!!!

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inhishands55
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

That paid for you new pool last year, right??? Congrats on 8 yrs smoke free....

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boontje
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Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

That's fantastic! Not only have you saved a ton of $$ , your health has benefited as well. Congrats!!


Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Congrats DS!!!!

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Can I have a raise?


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Speaking as an asthmatic who could never understand how anyone would inhale smoke into a perfectly good set of lungs, I congratulate you both on being 8 years smoke free.

Breathe easy my friends

ETA- @Moo

[This message edited by simplydevastated at 11:01 AM, August 2nd (Friday)]


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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Kodi
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, August 2nd (Friday)


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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Thank you for the hope and inspiration!!!!


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, August 2nd (Friday)

Ohhhhh, good for you and MH, DS!

I quit in 1976; I don't recall what cigarette prices were at the time, but I calculate I spent about $10/week. Times 52 weeks x 37 years, even at 1976 prices, I've saved over $19,000--and much, much more if I re-calculate using the huge increase.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

That is AMAZING, congrats!!!


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

Good for you both!! That is really great news.


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"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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imagoodwitch
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

How did you do it DS?

I'm looking for options that will not cause me to become homicidal.


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

Thanks everyone!!! Your support and encouragement is wonderful

imagoodwitch...

We used the Patch and didn't cheat at all. We set a quit date and stuck to it. I can tell you this...we had a few really awful fights the first year. No matter how hard we tried to keep from completely exploding, there were times...well...lets just say the neighbors knew we were fighting


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

Awesome! The cost alone should be incentive! Good for you for spending it on fun.


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

Awesome.

I am always astounded at how much cigarettes cost.

Having lost both my parents who were heavy smokers to lung cancer, you've most definitely done the right thing!

AJ's MOM


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

Holy cow that's a ton of money saved!

Congrats on quitting!


Me - 42
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
5 Furkids (3 Dogs, 2 Cats)

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

Congratulations on being smoke free.


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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, August 2nd (Friday)


..

best decision of and for your life

.. helps in the kissing department too!!!

smy


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Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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click4it
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

WAY TO GO DS AND MANGLED!! You are an inspiration to those of us have quit just recently.


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Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, August 2nd (Friday)

Great job

P.S. I totally get this:

I still love the smell of cigarette smoke and will practically sit in our smoking friends lap when they light up

The only problem is that it makes me crave one


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
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Default  Posted: 12:43 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)

I needed this today. I quit on April 15 (no aids, just plain cold turkey) and had a really bad craving today that lasted almost the whole afternoon. I almost bought a pack on my way home but I resisted.

Time to throw another $7.50 in my Italy jar.


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 6:22 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)

Wow.

Just awesome!

Proud of both of you!!!


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Default  Posted: 6:55 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)


Thanks for posting! That is so awesome.


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


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looking forward
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)

That is awesome!
8 years ~ way to go!
Son #1 quit a year and a half ago, but occasionally cheats with an Old Port Colt (cigar?).
Son #2 still smokes, but has cut back.
H and I can't stress enough how much healthier they both would be AND save money!

[This message edited by looking forward at 8:17 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)]


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)

That is awesome!

My grandmother quit smoking after having smoked for 20+ years. She never "cheated", but kept a crushed up cigarette in a ziplock bag in a drawer. Every now and then she would just sniff the bag.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)

Excellent!!!! This is wonderful to hear. I'm sure you are inspiring others too


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H - WS
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Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)

Wow, awesome DS and MH!!!!

You give me hope...I'm down to one pack a day give or take a few cigs. That money figure is looking soooooo good...and, of course, the health benefits!

PS...did you go 'cold turkey'?


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
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SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)

Yay! That's a ton of money saved too.


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Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)

So proud of you guys - it's not easy at all.

(((DS & MH)))


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lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)

That is amazing! Such a hard thing to do, and such an amazing accomplishment. Congrats to you both!!


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, August 3rd (Saturday)

AWESOME!!!

Congratulations to you both and thanks for being an inspiration to so many.


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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, August 3rd (Saturday)

That's wonderful!! Keep it up forever!


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, August 3rd (Saturday)

Yay!


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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, August 5th (Monday)

Wow, congratulations! I can't believe it's been that long. I remember when you started saving, and then that amazing Italy trip. That is soooo impressive and I'm very happy for you both!


Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13

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