wow - first off I can't believe I've reached this point in a new relationship...OK its not so new anymore. 3 years. When I left my X it was out of hte realm of comprehension that I could ever get to this point in a different relationship.
TG is changing jobs. This is a good change on a number of levels. However, TG does not handle change like this well. There was about a month of limbo before things were finalized. 3 weeks longer than expected and his start date has left him unemployed for a week. In all his adult life TG has only been in the military and had 2 other jobs post military. (while still putting in time in the National Guard which led to even more active duty military time ) He's never been through the process of an actual change.
Thank goodness he starts Monday! The budget is fine w/his missed week of work. Its not a problem. TG doesn't like to have much cash b/c he spends it too easily. I do most of the money related things in our relationship. He ended up with $500 in cash which he gave to me last night. I stashed away $100 for emergency cash. He picked up the stack of money off the dresser this morning and noticed the $100 missing.
He asked me about it. I jokingly said "I hid it". He got bent out of shape. I was sort of stunned. I thought he was joking but he wasn't. The short version is that he said 'don't keep secrets from me. we don't do this in our relationship. do you want me to start keeping secrets from you!'
I did not like the whole exchange. I wasn't hiding it. It started off as a joke. He has been extra touchy for hte last 3 weeks with all this transition. I might be just wearing a little thin with it but this bugged me.
Any suggestions on how to address his transitional stress attitude?
This is not normal for him. He normal doesn't get cranky over small stuff but he really has been a pain in the butt about it lately. We don't yell but this is about as cranky/agressive as he ever is. But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler