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UnexpectedSong
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, August 4th (Sunday)

Rick, another manager, asked me if I would join his team. He specifically told me not to mention this to my current manager Victor. I turned down Rick's job.

Should I tell Victor that I got an offer from Rick?

A coworker told me there are no-poaching policies at work. This was definitely poaching.


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, August 4th (Sunday)

Is there a company policy handbook you can look at?

I wouldn't take a co-worker's word for it. Why not find out what the policy is regarding that and then you can decide how you want to proceed.


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cayc
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, August 4th (Sunday)

Since you turned it down (ie did the right thing), I wouldn't do anything more. The only thing you'll accomplish if you do tell is to make an enemy out of Rick and that could come back to haunt you at a later date.


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 4th (Sunday)

I probably would not say anything. But depending on your relationship with Victor, maybe a "hypothetical" question whether this would be the type of disclosure he would expect.


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UnexpectedSong
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Default  Posted: 1:21 AM, August 5th (Monday)

I like the hypothetical approach. I dunno. I can't tell Victor without telling him that it's Rick. Maybe I just won't say anything, since there's nothing to tell. I do not want to make an enemy out of Rick.

I just don't know if I owe it to Victor to tell him.

Maybe not. I don't need any more drama at work. I'm the last person to seek drama and somehow drama swirls around me.


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aesir
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Default  Posted: 6:25 AM, August 5th (Monday)

I would say the first rule at work would be personal survival, especially in the present economy. While it may not be an imminent threat, best not to risk making enemies.


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UnexpectedSong
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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, August 5th (Monday)

personal survival

Ok, that works for me!


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