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risingfromashes
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Member # 3903
Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, August 5th (Monday)

Here I am. Happy to be moving on. Would not trade anything to be going to a new place with out him.

Of course he increases the drama this week. Tries to break into the marital house when he knows I am not there (had a feeling, drove home and caught the SOB walking around the house trying to gain access).

My girls are staying with him while I pack and pack and pack. Then unpack etc.

Posting here because I feel so alone. Alone and lonely. Brave and pathetically afraid at the same time.

I do not remember being this tired ever.

Damn.


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1611 | Registered: Mar 2004
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, August 5th (Monday)

What a huge job !!!
Then to have SOB being a shit doesn't help.

I moved from the marital house at this time last year after being there from 1982-2012.
I pretty much threw or gave away everything just so I didn't have to see or move it.

The hard work will be worth it when you have your own place that SOB isn't welcome in or ever lived in with you.

Forward !
Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 9:24 PM, August 5th (Monday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20340 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, August 5th (Monday)

(((((rising))))) Sending you comfort, my friend.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 24720 | Registered: Aug 2011
risingfromashes
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Member # 3903
Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, August 5th (Monday)

I am doing a major downsizing so have pitched, donated or given away many things,

I am bone-weary and still have much to do before closing.

I am really afraid and exhilarated at the same time.

I am actually thinking of sending an email blast out to ask for help.

Would that be rude?
There are about 20 people I know who have offered or I have assisted in the past.

I really need help.


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1611 | Registered: Mar 2004
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, August 5th (Monday)

am actually thinking of sending an email blast out to ask for help.

Would that be rude?

Not rude at all. Everyone needs help, hit FB too and Twitter if ya do that.
Time to call the troops !


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20340 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, August 5th (Monday)

There are about 20 people I know who have offered or I have assisted in the past.
Sweetie - ASK!!! I guarantee you that you will receive. Hell, if I lived closer, I'd be on your doorstep tomorrow morning with a smile on my face.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 24720 | Registered: Aug 2011
Pentup
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Member # 20563
Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)

If yOu are the type to NEVER help a friend in need, by all means, do not ask for help.

ASK. People do not like to intrude, but most like to feel needed. Put the word out. Let your friends help. You will be doing them a favor.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6499 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
nutmegkitty
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Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, August 9th (Friday)

How are things going Rising?? Are you getting settled in???


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


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