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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, August 5th (Monday)

I hate when people tell me that I need a full time job just so I can "get away" or have adult time. I'm a teacher....when I taught full time I had a 30 minute lunch with the other teachers (who were just as obnoxious as the students) and the rest of the time was spent with 6, 7, and 8th graders. There was no getting away. I don't need adult time from a job. I have friends. What I need is quiet. I have 3 girls. I just....need....quiet. Even the baby who talks but is only 22 months so a lot is gibberish, doesn't stop. So.much.talking. Maybe when they are teenagers they will hate me and not talk to me.


Me (BW): 32
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Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, August 5th (Monday)

(((TCD)))

Maybe when they are teenagers they will hate me and not talk to me.

Probably. But they will talk NEAR you on the phone.


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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, August 5th (Monday)

Holy moly, DD8 does that already. She has a friend she plays Minecraft with and talks to him on the phone as she is playing! The baby knows a lot of words and has been talking in 2 or 3 word sentences. Tonight she said her first "real" sentence. It was: "Mommy, I want a cookie." SMH.


Me (BW): 32
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Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, August 5th (Monday)

TCD - I only have ONE!!! and he talks NON-STOP!!! Usually to himself.

PS: I hate Minecraft... I think that game is evil.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, August 6th (Tuesday)

(((TCD)))
I have one girl, and she came out talking...Seriously before she could talk she would sing in her crib. The more she talks the better mood she is in. My H and I joke that it's someones turn to make her mad so she will be quiet...

OH sweet Jiminy Minecraft, has prevented many chores from getting done this summer!!! I know it helps them use their minds, but seriously it's like digital legos.


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, August 6th (Tuesday)

I told my husband the other day I don't even know how to hold a conversation with him from start to finish. We're too used to being interrupted every 30 seconds.
I swear I haven't finished a full thought in 6 years.

Anyway, I hear you.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 11:06 AM, August 6th (Tuesday)]



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Threnody
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)

Creezus, would you people keep it down in here? Some of us were enjoying the silence.

(I'm right there with you. Interrupted twice while typing th--- three times. *sob*)


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)

I know it helps them use their minds, but seriously it's like digital legos.

Minecraft helps them use their minds??? All DS talks about is running away from SlenderMan and sh*t like that.


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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)

Oh the Minecraft!!! I try to be nice and say I don't understand it (which I don't) so don't talk to me about it. In reality I want to say, "I could care less about Minecraft."

DD8 talks to you. And expects you to engage and interact. DD4 does a better job of talking to herself or just making up stories. She is also very awesome at playing with dolls and figures and making up stories and doing voices. But it's still talking. DD22 months is like Stewie Griffin...mom mom mommy ma mom momma. Then she says something in gibberish and gets upset if I say I have no clue what you are saying. Sometimes it's important things like, "waffle! Butter!"

[This message edited by TattoodChinaDoll at 1:16 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)]


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osxgirl
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)

Years ago, I helped out in my church's 4 - 5 yo Sunday School class. That was where I first learned about a really cool game for the kids. (Well, cool for the adults anyway.)

We had them play "graveyard". The objective? Everyone lays down on the floor and pretends they are in a graveyard. If you move or speak, you lose.

Yeah, it only lasted about 2 - 3 minutes at the most, before the most active ones just HAD to talk or make some sort of noise. But it was 2 - 3 minutes of blessed QUIET!

This is the kind of thing that, looking back, makes me realize WHY it always took my mom so long to find us kids when we played hide-and-go-seek.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, August 7th (Wednesday)

hahahaha at Oxsgirl - we play the quiet game all the time with our kids, especially when we are all in the car, and they are 14 & 16. Still they don't last more than 30 seconds.

TCD sounds like your middle one is destined to a life of living a musical - My 14 yo DD was like that too, and she is a singing, acting fool. She can make up songs about anything. Kinda like Wayne Brady on whose line is it. Although hers aren't usually that funny.

Thren - I feel your pain, I look forward to work, for my quiet time. Is that sad?

MINECRAFT - Oh where do I begin? My 14 yo sets it in Safe mode, and builds these amazing houses, and decorates them, I think in the kids mind it looks different than what I am seeing, because when her 16yo brother sees it he is all oooh and ahhh. My H and I are like, those graphics suck. My 16 yo gets on xbox live with friends, and they build giant things, and then blow them up from what I can tell. I think the draw is that it's simple but they see results.

I can say if I come home from work one more day and there are dirty dishes in the sink, and no chores done and one of them are playing X box it's going to be bad, very bad for them. Thinking of throwing the damn thing down into the woods!!!


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