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stunnedin12
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Member # 38141
Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)

MIA for a couple of weeks and thought I'd give a quick update. I have been working really hard on completely detaching. I think I have the detached part down as I can still look at my wh and feel nothing. The hard part is getting to be ok with feeling nothing and letting things take their course. As far as I know he has not attempted contact since I advised him I had been in contact with a lawyer. Sad that the very real possibility of divorce and losing his precious money may be the only catalyst for his trying. I'm ok with coasting - I don't know for how long. I'm ok with coasting because I do see him trying, he is being transparent, etc. I don't know how long I'll try. With that --- one of the things we've always had a silent agreement on was that he did the grilling. Well, low and behold - grilling is really a no-brainer. I don't need my wh. I WILL be ok if this marriage doesn't make it. I'm liking finding myself emerge from the crap and sh*t he threw out in the last 2 years! If he comes along for the ride, great. Who knows, maybe I'll love him someday. If he screws up, he's out and it's no skin off my back. That feels good.


ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.

Posts: 477 | Registered: Jan 2013
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)

Hope to be there myself one day. I've been coasting for a long time.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5135 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Topic Posts: 2