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gma56
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Cool  Posted: 5:15 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

CW is back in my life after a year.
He needed a break after we finally got our divorces finished. He suffered with a bad case of PTSD and needed to relocate to figure out his direction. We met when he was only 2 mo from separation so he had healing to do that I couldn't help him with.

He's doing much better and has refocused. We talked 6-7 times in the last year. A few weeks ago he called... I had given up and was NC for 2mo.
I tried to detach (tried every SI idea and a few I read about)and even was accused of still having feelings for CW by another man. Other man was right, I really thought it was over forever. We're going slow but it's all good so far and no more divorces to navigate through. Whew !

We both have work obligations but it can be worked around.
I'm happy.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)


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Take2
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

I'm happy, you're happy!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

Yay! I'm happy for you.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

Aw! Happy for you gma. You deserve it.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

gma - since it's a secret, I'll keep my squee very hushed.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

(((squee)))


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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SoHappyNow
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

WOOPEE!!!!!!


In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus

***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
Remarried 2/14/14


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Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

You deserve it, gma!


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

Thanks ya'll !
I hope this is true in my case.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

That's great lady
Kind of gives me a little hope about my breakup in May - similar timeline from D.

Really happy for you!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

Yay! Secret's out!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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cayc
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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

squeeee!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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gma56
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Cool  Posted: 11:59 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)

I missed him more than he will ever know. All 6'4" of him.

It was a needed break but the timing sucked.

Susi (unicornsearcher) had so much faith that he would be back. She knew what I didn't. I would love to tell her and tell her right now, she was right. Love and miss ya Susi ! She thought CW was one of a kind man. I agree.

[This message edited by gma56 at 2:19 AM, August 8th (Thursday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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gogirl
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, August 8th (Thursday)

Wonderful news...just love it!! Good for you two!


It's never too late to live happily ever after.


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, August 8th (Thursday)

gma, after the trauma of your marriage coupled with the trauma of Susi's death, I for one think you deserve some happiness. Good on you. Good on CW for realizing he had a good thing going!

Edited to add: And Susi already knows.

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 8:37 AM, August 8th (Thursday)]


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, August 8th (Thursday)

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, August 8th (Thursday)

Edited to add: And Susi already knows
She does know but I would love to have that conversation with her. Knowing her, she would be on the phone with CW and saying how proud she of him for fighting to get back to life again. Yep, that is exactly what she would do. And he made a good choice by calling me.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, August 8th (Thursday)

x100


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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booger bear
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Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, August 8th (Thursday)

sheesh bout time ... enjoy yourselves ...


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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, August 8th (Thursday)

Yay!


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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need_hope
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, August 8th (Thursday)

I'm thrilled for you!


Me - happily single
Him - no longer matters
Married 28 yrs
Filed for D 1/10
DIVORCED 12/12

Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.


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foxglove
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, August 8th (Thursday)

Great news! It could not have happened to a more deserving person.

(((gma)))


Me (BS)47
XH (WS)53
Married 21 years
Divorced 2/19/07
Two sons 21 and 23 in college

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exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 1:31 AM, August 9th (Friday)

I'm so glad to hear that gma!

Squeee!!!!


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


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gma56
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Default  Posted: 3:33 AM, August 9th (Friday)

Not sure if this will work for us but definitely we have something special I've never had with anyone else. I don't think anyone has ever known me as well as he does. I know FT never was interested enough to ask or listen but then neither did anyone before FT.
Yes I did miss him in my life. I hope I don't lose it again.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, August 9th (Friday)

I missed what happened with this guy and was wondering when there would be an update. Glad to hear it!!!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, August 9th (Friday)

So happy for you gma
You deserve happiness and someone who cares for you. CW taking time to get himself right so he can be the right person with you, that is really caring about you. That is someone super special


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, August 9th (Friday)

CW taking time to get himself right so he can be the right person with you, that is really caring about you. That is someone super special
He did the hard work for himself and his future but it would be wonderful if I was the one to share the future with him.
He's a good man and a great friend so if that is all we will be, that is pretty special in it's self altho if that is all, I hope I lose what I feel. I don't want to be that woman that loves someone and they don't ever feel the same. Time will tell.

Right now we are both busy trying to get some security. Neither wants to be a burden to the other.It will be SLOW Forward.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, August 9th (Friday)

I'm so glad he realized he was missing out on the best thing in his life.

Congratulations, and enjoy!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, August 9th (Friday)

Very happy for you!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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burnt_toast
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, August 9th (Friday)

Hi gma! So happy to see you are in a good place.


It is what it is.

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