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Elphaba
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Member # 40110
Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, August 8th (Thursday)

Hey all-
Well, DDay #3 came on Monday evening. I wouldn't let up about the "nothing happened" statement- and he finally confessed that he did indeed go meet the prostitute for sex.
I made him give me all of his passwords...all of the facts. He seemed robotic.
The next day- I went over his cell phone records...it gets worse. "dial a whore" numbers, sex lines, and calls to many other women.
I told him we were going to have a long chat that night...he proceeds to leave my car in the parking lot at my work (he picks me up from work daily) with the keys in it, and a text that states he is going to "finish himself".
I panic- get friends and family involved looking for him for the next 24 hours...he finally responds through a third party "I am ok, and I want no further information shared" WTF?!?!
His friends immediately start coddling him, poor guy, just needs to blow off steam etc...WHAT??
How has HE now become the fucking victim???
He won't speak to me- nothing...I am left high and dry.
So- lesson learned. Trust no one...
This too shall pass, but while it's happening, IT BLOWS!!!
My heart is shattered.


So Confused, Hurt, Humiliated...
But strong...
DDay: 06/23/13
DDay #2 08/05/2013
DDay #3 08/12/13
DDay #4 08/13/13
...you get the idea
Not married
New relationship
That's what is sad...

Posts: 13 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Santa Clara
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, August 8th (Thursday)

((((Elphaba))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25696 | Registered: Aug 2011
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, August 8th (Thursday)

(((Elphaba)))

It is easy to fool people in the moment but soon his lies will fall apart and his ruse will be up. You did the right things even though they aren't the easy to deal with at the moment. We are here for support so if you can't find that right not IRL be sure to keep leaning on us here.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52570 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Baldeagle
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Member # 40194
Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, August 8th (Thursday)

The ruse will never be up as long he has a support system and that system doesn't care who he hurt if they're not the victims. Been there & still going through it 1.5yrs later.

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