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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, August 9th (Friday)

Last year we went to St. George Island. Throughout the trip, he was distant, short, and mean. Just had that look the whole time like he disapproved of me in general.

D-Day 2 happened the week after we returned.

We went last week. I was really apprehensive about going and felt like it would feel the same. It didn't. It was great. We had a wonderful time. I didn't want to leave and I can't wait to go back.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6565 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, August 9th (Friday)

That's awesome. I am all about stories of reclamation. Thanks for sharing this, Jana.


"I would rather take a punch than not give you a shot. I'd rather find out who you are than who you're not."

Posts: 6285 | Registered: Dec 2010
JanaGreen
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Member # 29341
Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, August 9th (Friday)

Thanks Losfer.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6565 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, August 9th (Friday)

That's great. You guys have come so far.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6311 | Registered: Jan 2011
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, August 9th (Friday)

That's great JanaGreen! I am happy for you.

LA


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2121 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
HFSSC
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Member # 33338
Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, August 9th (Friday)

I love it!

Jana you are one of the people who has inspired me and given me hope through this journey. Thanks for sharing this!


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2662 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
JanaGreen
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Member # 29341
Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, August 9th (Friday)

Thank you Rebreather. I wouldn't have thought this time last year that we'd be together & happy! Thanks LA44! HFSSC I am really touched that you feel that way. Thank you!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6565 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
OnAnIsland
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Member # 34319
Default  Posted: 6:31 AM, August 10th (Saturday)

You are very brave. Thank you for sharing. Keep on walking and working


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


Posts: 1478 | Registered: Dec 2011
MrsDoubtfire
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Member # 24786
Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, August 10th (Saturday)

Well done Jana- you really have come through to a better place.

You're an inspiration


BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now become

Posts: 1563 | Registered: Jul 2009
kickboxer
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Member # 39858
Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, August 10th (Saturday)

My dd was about a month ago, and we were on vacation.

I still can't go through the pictures...a friend asked me for a few and I did what I had to do to find the few she was looking for, but I kept seeing them as a timeline. There were pics I took less than 1 hour before I found out...one minute I was living the life I thought we had, and the next I was living in a lie.

One day I hope to find the same peace you describe.


BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

Posts: 248 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere Out There
brokensmile322
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Member # 35758
Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, August 10th (Saturday)

What a difference a year makes! Glad for you, Jana!


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


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