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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

Just a vent.

It's so awesome when the OW becomes the Owife. I am so grateful to have her in my life and in my kids' lives. Please don't be jealous of my extremely enviable situation. I mean, it's seriously better than winning the Powerball jackpot!

The kids are back from their week-long vacation, thankfully. I was getting dinner ready when I heard XWH's nerdmobile in the driveway. I looked out the window and saw her in the passenger's seat. Nice sunglasses, by the way; the 80s called and want that style returned to them. Anyway, her physical presence in my life is a first. She's been hiding from me up until this point. I wonder if she's now going to be so bold as to try to talk to me. Boy, I hope she's not that dumb.

I hardly ever bother to go outside because I want as much NC with XWH as possible, but if she ever shows up in my driveway again, I think I will. I'm not going to let her think that I was cowering in my house, afraid to see her. I walked outside briefly to get something I left in the driveway, and I kept my Mona-Lisa-bordering-on-smug smile on my face. I hope she got a good look, and I hope that condescension and superiority were oozing out of my every pore.

She and my XWH are truly despicable people. I'm usually okay with life these days, but it's little reminders like this that make me shake my head in amazement. He just happily substituted her into our family's lives, and they just came back from their happy little family trip that I went on for years. They just parked in my driveway like they were the nice neighbors dropping my kids off after a playdate. Talk about seriously effed up.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

She's got some big balls, doesn't she?

I'd maybe moon her next time....


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Celebrating 60 years on Earth

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dmari
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

Small balls, no brain.

Good vent tryingagain71 ~ it is seriously effed up. I'm glad to read that this incident didn't trigger you.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
I FINALLY GOT A COURT DATE: 5/29/14!!

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

Ignore, ignore, ignore. She wants to get a reaction out of you, any reaction. Don't give her the satisfaction.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 11989 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

He just happily substituted her into our family's lives,

My view on this is OW gets the life I was going to live, my future.

The future of living with a lying, cheating, moody, passive-aggressive, anxiety ridden, self-loathing, immature, pathetic giant sack of shit.

You have won the Powerball Jackpot - you are rid of him.

I have yet to see OWUmpteen - I've known her for several years as she is his office gopher. He very kindly had me sit next to her through a colleagues wedding when I was 8m pregnant. Nice.

They are shameless because they have no self-respect. When she does dare to bare her face in my presence she is likely to get a big belly laugh out of me.

You in your dead whores getup (sorry, vintage) and your balding skinny/fat middle aged boyfriend look ridiculous on your own, together and hilarity ensues.


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

Posts: 4561 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 11:32 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

"The future of living with a lying, cheating, moody, passive-aggressive, anxiety ridden, self-loathing, immature, pathetic giant sack of shit."

Oh, I see you've met my ex!

OP, OW may act like she won the "prize" but now that she is the wife and no longer has the more appreciated (by him) role of OW she is probably starting to see clearly that being the wife of that jackass isn't all that she had hoped for. I wouldn't be surprised if she was hoping you would look like a downtrodden mess so that she could feel better about her life.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
tesla
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Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

I just laugh when I see stripper whore in the car. Yup, get a good look at my house.
And of course there are the majority of the times when she is the one meeting me at the door when I pick Teslet up. Whatever. She won. Yippee.

Owifey needs to legitimize herself. That means riding shotgun and ghost writing his emails to you. .


ish kabibble

Posts: 4203 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 1:42 AM, August 11th (Sunday)

The future of living with a lying, cheating, moody, passive-aggressive, anxiety ridden, self-loathing, immature, pathetic giant sack of shit.

I love this! Its been added to the 300 pages of word documents that I have accumulated in case I actually get to tell my asshat stbxh what I'm thinking..


Posts: 138 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: In a better place
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 1:58 AM, August 11th (Sunday)

Nice sunglasses, by the way; the 80s called and want that style returned to them.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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Posts: 7249 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Fooled Me Twice
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Default  Posted: 6:05 AM, August 11th (Sunday)

I'll likely be in the same position soon too - though they are not (yet) married. They did just buy a huge sfh together and she gets to ride around in his porsche and mercedes.

Whatever - same as you - its so nice to be free of the depressed, anxiety ridden, self loathing, verbally, and at times slightly physically abusive, lying, cheating pos - and as his own father called him on dday - inherently lazy, selfish and a bit schizophrenic. Really - she's 23 years old. She's got no idea what's she in for - ha ha ha!

[This message edited by Fooled Me Twice at 6:07 AM, August 11th (Sunday)]


ME: BS 33 (now 34)
HIM: WS 33 (now 35)
OW: 22, howorker (now 24)
July 2007: Porn found on computer along with profiles on dating websites.
DDay: January 16, 2012 - suspicious since Dec 2011
Divorced: June 11, 2013

Posts: 209 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Here and There
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, August 11th (Sunday)

my atty said the day she comes in my driveway for pickup, I can put a No tresspass order on her.

I have yet to say 1 word to her, my former friend.

She doesn't have the honor of a conversation from me...

My PI says I should wave to her from the porch of the home I got and tell her thank you for working for to pay XH child support -- as what I get in child support is 2 weeks of her salary!!!!


Also,, I heard from a source that OW is miserable! She has the same (gasp) complaints about him that I did.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 9:30 AM, August 11th (Sunday)]


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

It's so F'ed up. The whole situation, from start to finish, is F'ed up.

I can't wait until this "we just got married and we're all a happy family" high fades for them. Someone needs to fill the OW roll to fill that bottomless vacancy called his soul.

Hope she's got a keylogger on his laptop.



D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

It's terrible, the lack of boundaries and intrusion on the life of a person an OW/OM doesn't even know.

I have a friend who is a fellow BS and the OW there feels free to stroll around the property my friend lives in with their kids. She looks in the windows and at the gardens and my friend finds humor in shutting the shades or slamming a door if she sees the face anywhere.

I've seen this OW check me out if she's around and it makes me gag. So I treat her the same way.

We also ignore each other's ExH when they arrive for kid visits and it feels supportive and bothers them.

It's a shame but I like the healing words, too, Trying Again.

I've put the foot down and simply will not let OW on our property and will call the police if she arrives. I may not tell her I did, but I'm too early in the process to handle it. Nor will I meet her or give the time of day. I don't know how long I can keep it this way, but I commend you for the Mona Lisa smile.


Ashland 13

The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge


Posts: 1965 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

You know, once these OW start sniffing around and getting brave, I take it as a sign that they are feeling more and more threatened. Think about it, during the height of the
A, our WS made it real easy for them to feel secure. "Oh, poor me, my wife is crazy and bitchy and never shows me any love. I haven't been happy for so long. I can't believe that you came along to save me". Blah, blah, blah. If they actually leave, they give the OW an ultimate high and a feeling of total victory.

That shit wears off like everything else. When that happens, the OW likely has noticed the deficiencies in the WS. She realizes he definitely had/has faults and starts to think, "maybe it wasn't all her (a.k.s. BS). " Then the thoughts and memories of exactly the behavior of which he's capable come creeping in. At this point she is starting to see that she "won" something that really isn't winnable.

She's coming around because, like a dog, she feels the need to pee on what is now her temporary territory. Like typical WS behavior, I would have to say this is probably typical pig OW behavior.

Fuck her and fuck him. They are pathetic. I'm with Tesla. Sure, come on over, slunt. Take a good look around and let it soak in that you didn't steal the good parts of my life. You stole the shit. Now you can keep it.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

You guys rock. You're all invited to my house for drinks, and we can all sit on my front porch and just stare at them the next time they pull in. Maybe then they'll just drop the kids up the block and speed away in his extremely unsexy minivan (nothing against minivans... just hilarious that Mr. Midlife Crisis has gotten even deeper into the staid, suburban life he professed to hate).


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 4:57 AM, August 12th (Monday)

Sure, come on over, slunt. Take a good look around and let it soak in that you didn't steal the good parts of my life. You stole the shit. Now you can keep it.


This!!! There it is. Pure golden truth, no unicorns farting rainbows & shitting gold bullion.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd; free of the overgrown baby
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 634 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
trebleclef
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Default  Posted: 6:38 AM, August 12th (Monday)

Sure, come on over, slunt. Take a good look around and let it soak in that you didn't steal the good parts of my life. You stole the shit. Now you can keep it.

I needed this thought today- thanks!
Need to remember she didn't take the good parts - she got the garbage. Yes.


True remorse isn't followed by a "but".

Posts: 1807 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Alberta
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, August 12th (Monday)

You're all invited to my house for drinks, and we can all sit on my front porch and just stare at them the next time they pull in

I love this visual. Next time I am having NPD-x troubles I am going to visualize all you doing this for me!


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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ideservebetter45
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, August 12th (Monday)

I told my ex a$$hole to never bring her in my drive way again or I was calling the police.This is exactly what she said to me when I first learned of her affair with my ex and I tried to talk to her.BITCH

Posts: 124 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: ideservebetter45
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, August 12th (Monday)

Sure, come on over, slunt. Take a good look around and let it soak in that you didn't steal the good parts of my life. You stole the shit. Now you can keep it.

Ha! So true!


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

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