My daughter (4) and I are spending the weekend with my family. WH and son (20 months) are home. I told my H how nervous i was to leave. He assured me again how his A was " the biggest mistake of his life" and reminded my again its been 4-5 years since it happened. ( I JFO about a month ago)
Since I left on Friday he sends me pics of him with DS and made sure to facetime twice so i would know for sure he was home. Those things make me feel better but Im pissed that I need those things to make me feel better. How long will I have to feel this way? Do I want to deal with feeling this way? Will I have to have him prove where he is and constantly worry for the rest of my life?!! This sucks.Me-BS 31
PA sex 3-4times over three months during the EA
Posts: 93 | Registered: Jul 2013
kickboxer Member Member # 39858
Posted: 7:29 AM, August 11th (Sunday)
I'm about a month out as well.
I don't know the answers, but can assure you I have the same questions.
I look at our family. Our life. Everything we've been through...and I tell myself it's worth the fight.
But am I strong enough?
BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.
Posts: 248 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere Out There
AFrayedKnot Member Member # 36622
Posted: 7:30 AM, August 11th (Sunday)
He should want to prove it to you. It should be on his shoulders not yours. For us it took a while to get there though. Now my fWS still takes pictures when she arrives and leaves anywhere she goes. I haven't looked at them in months.
It does get easier with time an effort on both sides.BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"