My BW's triggers are still raging at high velocity's even after fifteen months since D-Day, and I still feel her pain and disappointment in my selfish acts which go back around five years.
One month after your D-Day tells me there is more venting to come forth by your BW as I found through time that all BW analyse and try reason with there brokeness of there marriage. To be able to stand there being a bull's eye for your BW to throw darts at you is something horific, but imagine what it would be like if the roles were reversed how would you feel, honestly. You want to be strong then you have to be there for your BW as much as possible, that also shows some strength from your part even though your BW might not see it just yet. The damage takes years to recover from to a certain degree and it depends on you what you decide on the next move is going to be. Hang in there and take those darts, no matter what and be there for your BW. Time will heal but its what you do in that time that really matters, think about it.