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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

My husband bought himself a car that he absolutely loves right before his A.He always wanted one and we had come into a pretty nice inheritance so I didn't mind.

The car has nothing to do with his A but I think just the timing of it always gave me an ick feeling.

There were times it made me trigger but I never told him to sell it or let him know it bothered me a bit. It was one of those things that made no sense (at that time very little did).

His car is garaged in the winter/snowy season and during lousy rainy weather. He babies it and it really does make him smile. He loves it.

DD starts nursing school the end of the month and as I was walking out to head to work today H says...how are we going to pay for school? DD is a wonderful kid, smart, caring, one of those kids that you wonder how you got so lucky to have....

So I just said I wasn't sure. Borrowing money just makes me sick.

So he said...I can still get about 25k for my car, it would pay for the first year.

I smiled, kissed him on my way out the door and said we would talk after work.

So I am driving to work and I just can't wipe the shit-eating grin off my face.

He is going to sell that stupid car that I hate to fund DS's first year of nursing school.

Points for dad and a little yahoo for me.

Made my heart happy.

I am especially happy I never demanded he get rid of it post-A. It will really go to a good cause now and he can buy himself a new toy....after tuition

ETA: Not really feeling guilty after-all...hmmm sometimes things right themselves on their own

[This message edited by karmahappens at 2:41 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]


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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

Points for Dad on this one. Great for you getting rid of an "ick" feeling.


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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, August 11th (Sunday)


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