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EZ4U
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

So divorced a year and still talk to ex FIL and ex SIL. I had begged them to do an intervention with the bipolar ex prior to our divorce but they only gave the thought lip service w no action. Divorce happened and we all went our separate ways.
Now Ex SIL is pregnant, wants to do Thanksgiving holiday at my house "so you can see the baby" and thinks I want to put her family and father up for the week,cook and conveniently babysit while they go to a college football game that Friday (her Real motivation for coming my way).
Well,I kindly informed her I didn't know what her brothers plans were but we held separate holidays now. She complained there was no room at his apt and nowhere to cook (or trust him to babysit during the football game). Too bad, so sad honey. My days of trying to please the in laws are OVER! Brothers negative actions effect you now too. The house close to Disney and your old college is closed to visitors and the maid quit.


"I shall Forgive and Forget.
Forgive myself for being stupid and Forget about you."

Posts: 39 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Central Florida
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

Need a like button!


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6605 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

Bravo!

This is not something I'll ever have to worry about- his "family" never once came to our home once we moved out of state. (Aside from his NPD cheater father, and if I never see that bastard again it will be too soon).

Good for you!


divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

LOVE IT!
It's not your problem any more, you are free from that.


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, August 11th (Sunday)


Doesn't it feel good to use that personal power you've been working on ?
Love this !
She has an entitled nerve to even ask !

[This message edited by gma56 at 11:44 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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sadsmile
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

Good on you!

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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 4:31 AM, August 12th (Monday)

The NERVE of some people!!!

Way to go setting them straight!


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2611 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
SBB
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Default  Posted: 5:43 AM, August 12th (Monday)

I bet it feels AWESOME!!

I can't believe the cheek!


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 6:00 AM, August 12th (Monday)

You did good


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20291 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
EZ4U
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Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, August 12th (Monday)

Hee! She was all "I just thought everyone would want to see the baby"...
Want to see her first child ,kiss him and send him back to momma- sure. But babysit on my days off while you and hubby go to the big FSU/UF game, pay tons for holiday groceries, cook for hours while u guys go out shopping, pick up after the FIL while he ignores my presence and watch the EX eat, burp and declare what " friends" we are then go home to pork his latest girlfriend? - NO!
Little miss entitled is gonna have to learn mommies don't always get to go out for fun without baby overnight. Babysitters are expensive and not always available, cook your own damn turkey, and clean up your own smelly messes. I am goin Holiday Friday shopping, I will have a pleasant dinner with my parents and son who will help me clean up afterwards, and I will watch football on the couch and take a nap all I want afterwards too. Whoop whoop!


"I shall Forgive and Forget.
Forgive myself for being stupid and Forget about you."

Posts: 39 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Central Florida
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