User Topic: It's done
Member # 38606
Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

I ended it tonight. I stayed after finding the texts. I've realized that I deserve better. I don't deserve someone who spends every waking hour away from home. And when he does have free time, decides to go to his friends house to get high. Nightly. Forget about spending quality time with his wife and child. Forget about helping me get our dd bathed and put to bed. Forget about those 2 hours after she's asleep to spend some time together. Nope. Getting high with his friends and being gone from home for 12 hours a day to "study" is more important. I can't tell you the last time I actually saw him and spent quality time with him. So fuck it. FUCK HIM. I hate him for doing this to me AGAIN. I accept that I knew this was a risk, but what the fuck ever. Karma is a bitch and he will get his. He has no idea what he lost. I know I'm beautiful inside and out. I've babysat his ass for two years. Now I can get out of debt. Now I can quit paying his child support. Quit laying his car payment. Quit paying his cell and auto insurance and school note. I'm done.

BGF-me (31)-devoted girlfriend
xBF-him (30)-manipulative cheater
One beautiful dd. 14 years together (off and on). Married for 8 years, divorced, then "dating" for 3 more years.

Posts: 115 | Registered: Mar 2013
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

((((Foolme)))) Sending you strength, honey.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25765 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

((((Foolme1)))) From here you will get better, I promise.

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1778 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

Sending strength also !
Expect WBF to try to suck you back in. What a free ride he's had up to now. Go to school and hang out with friends like a teen while you support his ass.
Close the door and lock it.
When you're done you're DONE with his shit.
Big Hugs, it's a tough road through separation but there is an end to the disrespect you are living everyday.

[This message edited by gma56 at 11:16 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
Member # 6908
Default  Posted: 4:58 AM, August 12th (Monday)

Yep, you just know when its all done. His free ride in life to party and screw other women while you pay for it and take care of him is ALL DONE.

Quietly pack up your stuff and get out if you are just renting. If you own the home then kick him out. Let him deal with his own life and figure it out.

Posts: 5679 | Registered: Apr 2005 | From: florida
Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, August 12th (Monday)

When you reach this point, you just know you are done, it really gets so much easier to move forward.

divorced the Dooosh
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Member # 38606
Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, August 12th (Monday)

It took me 4 years to get here. Apparently, I can take a beating! He eventually showed up last night (it is my house, not his), and was all pissy with me saying I have yet to apologize for the mean, hateful things I have said to him (I called him a pothead…that’s as mean as it got). I told him “Because I’m not f-ing sorry!” and went to bed. Then he texted me this long text. I can’t recall what it said. Didn’t matter. I do remember texting him back saying “Sorry, I cannot do this game anymore. You pushed me and pushed me. I warned you this would happen”. Then this morning, he is walking out the door and asks me if I will give him a kiss. I said “I’m sorry, I don’t think so”, and he walked out. I feel bad, NOT FOR HIM, but because I know that I want out NOT to hurt him, but to better my self. I am trying so hard not to be vindictive and purposely hurtful. I just want to go our separate ways and raise our dd amicably. I’m mentally preparing for the fight that he’s about to start about how I am selfish, and I don’t help him, and I make his life more difficult, etc., etc.

BGF-me (31)-devoted girlfriend
xBF-him (30)-manipulative cheater
One beautiful dd. 14 years together (off and on). Married for 8 years, divorced, then "dating" for 3 more years.

Posts: 115 | Registered: Mar 2013
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