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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, August 12th (Monday)

So the OWxWW sends a letter, she can no longer get through on another device. We have since moved so it was forwarded from the old address. Does she get notified of new address?

The letter was all very sweet and made me sick saying she hopes the old relationships can someday be repaired( YEAH RIGHT BITCH). The pretext was informing him that their son & his POS abusive wife are expecting a baby in Sept. We knew this since FWS is in contact with her parents(she is not).

I just want to respond with a new NC letter & a few other thoughts. He just wants to stay crickets.


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

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mrcpu
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, August 12th (Monday)

Firstly, I'm pretty sure they don't get any notice of the redirection. They don't up here in Canada anyway.

Secondly, I'm sorry... "OWxWW" ?

I'd do up a nice, professional sounding, non-emotional, f-off letter and send it with no return address.


D-Day 1: 22 Dec 2012
D-Day 2: 22 July 2014 (unconfirmed)
Me: 40's WW: 40's Together 15 years
1st OM: ex-"Best Friend" of 30+ years
2nd OM: ?!? Currently auditing to confirm.

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authenticnow
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Red  Posted: 10:08 AM, August 12th (Monday)

UndecidedinMA,

Please follow the Reconciliation Forum guidelines.


A wonderful place to share your struggles, success stories and triggers while trying to reconcile.It's a long road, but you can do it! There is to be no venting about or name calling the OP in this forum.

Thank you.


Take up your space (and do it well).

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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, August 12th (Monday)

crickets!!!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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Knowing
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, August 12th (Monday)

DDay is a long way off for you. Crickets is the best way to go.


Me: BW, Him: fWH
Together 12 years
My EA (?) 2005-2011
His STA/PA: D-day: 19/09/12
TT: 08/12/12

We are in R.


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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, August 12th (Monday)

OWxWW = She is the Other Woman but she is also his ex-wife who was a Wayward, you could add a few more since she was also a drug/sex addict, as well as totally narcissistic.


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

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HurtsBad
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, August 12th (Monday)

I vote for crickets. There is nothing to be gained by replying.

If she is unable to contact you any other way, and she gets no reply to this letter, she might give up.

Best of luck in your continuing healing.


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Experience comes from bad judgment.

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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, August 12th (Monday)

NC all the way - anything you send can be an excuse for further contact, if that's what she wants.


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
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