User Topic: Since Dday...
Member # 39588
Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, August 12th (Monday)

Our neighbors tree fell on our house - knocked out all our electricity and was 2 feet from crashing into my sons room right over his bed. Had to pay $1000 JUST to get electric back that day.

Our a/c went out twice in a week in our SUV and had to fight with the dealership who wanted $500 more to fix.

Our sump pump went out and flooded our basement and we lost everything down there.

Had to pay $3500 for new gutters and facia for the house because of the tree.

Last night found a bed bug.....


Things can only get better right!?!?

Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".

Posts: 299 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, August 12th (Monday)



Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."

Posts: 37987 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 36634
Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, August 12th (Monday)

When it rains it pours! It can only get better from here.
Right after D-day we too experienced all types of issues. IE: My husband ended up in the hospital on life support.
Chin up. After all that I have been through, I no longer sweat the small stuff.
Things that used to make me very upset no longer bother me after all that I have been through this past year.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger..right?

[This message edited by lilflower1000 at 12:46 PM, August 12th (Monday)]

Me: 44 BS
Married 12 yrs
True R: 12/2012
4kids(11, 8, 5, 4mos)+ 2 Step kids I love like my own

Posts: 313 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Georgia
Member # 37575
Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, August 12th (Monday)

Let's hope they can,
since dday - relocated, our new house survived a fire and mud slide, WH survived cancer, we both are dealing with new jobs (thankfully we have jobs!), aging parents issues, along with all the normal stress of life.
I am very sorry for your loses and I am sending good thoughts for better days for you and your family Princess!
Take care

Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein

Posts: 488 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, August 12th (Monday)

Sometimes I'm too practical, but - your neighbor is very possibly responsible for fixing the damage to your home, whether he's insured or not. It's probably worth talking to him or to his insurance company.

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10341 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, August 12th (Monday)

OMG - that totally happened to us, too!
The a/c in my car went out, my husband's brakes needed replaced, and the washing machine died.

me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is a personal crisis, not a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.

Posts: 2055 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Member # 39588
Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, August 12th (Monday)

Our insurance company is supposedly going after them because we have proof the tree was bad. Our neighbor even admitted it as he had it chained to his porch trying to keep it upright!!!!! LOL

They didn't give us enough for all the gutters to be redone but they were bad all around the house so it made no sense just to get a portion done.

We are crossing our fingers that someday a check for our deductible will show up in the mail..... Of course it will probably all go into an exterminator.

Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".

Posts: 299 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, August 12th (Monday)

Oh my...(((hugs))) I get this.

We had so much shit hit the fan after dday that I started to just expect the bad. I was a twitching crazy nut.

Now, almost 6 years later and things have calmed down...some...thank god.

When someone asks me "what's new" now-a-days, if I have nothing to report I say a little thank you to the heavens...cuz nothing to report means nothing bad has happened.

hang in there....

Oh and we had a tree fall from a neighbors yard, it was dead too...we got our deductible back after about a year ...but we got it.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3845 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, August 12th (Monday)

You know the funny thing PP06...I find all the other stuff a bit of a relief in my world!

Bed H brought a couple home from a trip to Ireland about 5 years ago. At first I thought I had flea bites...could not imagine how though. Then...I!

And yes. Things can only get better!

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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