Here are just a few things I wish I had know to do:
1)Stake out my WH in the parking lot at his job. He was having an A with MOW co-worker and would head out around 1-2pm (her lunch hr) for BJs at an abandon lot close by.
2)Place a Voice Activated Recorder in my home while I was away to hear phone conversation and face to face conversations when he brought her into my home.
3)Follow him when he left on a Sat AM when he claimed to be golfing but was meeting up with POS MOW.
4) OR hide my iPhone (with silencer on) in his vehicle and use the "find my phone" app to see exactly where he was.
5)He used a work blackberry and computer ALL the time so I did not have access to phone records. If your H uses a personal cell phone then check the phone records.
6) Pay VERY close attention to EVERYTHING and do not ignore anything. Write suspicious activity down so that over time you do not forget or confuse things.
Trust your gut...ALWAYS.
ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.